I don't really know where to start with this, my brother needs help and I don't know how to help him.
My mums side of the family kind of has a history of being pretty shy and quiet, we all feel a bit uncomfortable in new situations but I know this is pretty normal and we all kind of just get on with it.
Except for my borther. His shyness is crippling. He is 27, he still lives at home, has no friends and doesn't go out except to do a bit of shopping and walk the dog.
He has a job, which he doesn't really enjoy but is doing a course in something that really interests him.
A few months ago, my mum called and said he likes a girl at work, she told me this in confidence because he didn't want anyone to know. Well for a while, this seemed like a good thing, he seemed happy. But she's not interested. I don't really know too much about what has gone on in between but my mum has just called and she is in bits, worried he's going to do something.
She said he's getting quite obsessed with this girl from work and he seems so depressed, he feels like his life has no purpose. He's now saying he wants to move out, I really don't think this is a good time for that but how can she stop him?
My mum has tried suggesting he seek help but he is refusing. He had counselling as a teenager and it didn't really do much good, maybe he feels it's a waste of time.
My dad is useless and the only advice he has is to snap out of it so my mum feels alone in this.
How can we help him if he won't help himself? We are so so worried but don't know where to go for help..
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How can I help my brother?
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Phteven · 01/10/2016 09:34
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