Feel really grotty today!!!!

[Jazzi]

Having one of those days I think, I am tired, think I have PMT and it is all getting too much. I work as a part-time lecturer and am doing a phd, I work 200 miles away from where I live, so travel down on a Sunday and return Wdnesday. My dp is in charge on those days to take the kids to and from nursery and feed them. When I return the place is always in a tip, there is no food in the fridge and nothing has been done. My 2 ds's are also both at home for the rest of the week, which is great as I get time with them, but it means I take them everywhere. Once I am home I have to clean, shop, pay all the bills, take animals to the vets, children to the hairdressers/doctors/dentists, anything that has to be done is down to me, and I am knackered. If I speak to dp he is very defensive and goes on about how hard it is for him. We live near his parents and they help him out, his mother thinks I am a cow for leaving her darling son, and blames all his wows on me! I am just really pissed off!

[Jazzi]

Bump!

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Does DP work?

[Jazzi]

Yes he does, but with a family member which means flexibility.

[LostMe]

Hey superwoman!! Don't sell yourself short - you sound like you are doing a phenomenal job!! Can't MIL help out while you are on shift? Every woman needs some time off after all! I don't currently work - but hate being tied to the house and feel I ought to be making a 'greater contribution'. My DH leaves all household stuff to me. I don't think he even knows where our 5 yr olds birthday is in two weeks time! Can you afford a cleaner or order shopping online? It might help release you from some of the overwhelming domestic bliss stuff!! (((((((((hugs))))))))))) You sound like you are doing a great job and deserve more thanks! Good luck with the PHD. xxx

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Full time or part time????

I have to say Im guilty of this- DH quite often goes a way from Sunday throu to Friday and when he gets back I just hand DC(3)to him thinking well he hasnt had them all eek he can have them to and get VERY defensive when he tells me so! I forget that he has been to America and jetlagged, I just think how tired I am- maybe this is what your DP is doing.
I must admit, my DH is a really great dad but when it comes to organising childcare, school dinner money, dance lessons, Drs ,Dentists ETC he hasnt got a clue. I really feel that that is a man thing. Tell my DH he has to pick extra children up or so and so's children are coming to play thats fine. If I go out as long as he has a list of whats happening then we have a smooth house. Guess what Im trying to say is unfortunately thats just typical of a man.
Do you have much longer doing your PHD- Remember it will be worth it in the long run!