I've NCd because this isn't something I'm very comfortable talking about, but I'm a regular.
I first self-harmed in my early teens but didn't really consider myself 'depressed', just unhappy with very low self esteem. It was a form of stress relief and I told myself it was okay because I didn't cut very deep. I only did it sporadically when I felt overwhelmed and I certainly didn't see it as an issue I needed to address. I stopped at 18 when I left home, I lost a bit of weight and felt much better about myself, 3 years later after I split with my first serious boyfriend, I did it again but thay was it for years and I haven't felt the urge to do so in a long time.
I'm in my mid twenties now, married, well on my way to having a successful career etc etc but I'm deeply unhappy. It doesn't really take much to push me over the edge and I think about cutting myself/suicide. A spat with DH, anxiety over work etc.
I don't feel like I would ever actually kill myself, I wouldn't want to hurt my family but there are times when I feel like I can't do it anymore. I have cut myself a few times in the last 6 months, and it does briefly make me feel better but it's getting to the point where friends and family are asking me what the scars are. My teenage brother has figured it out and I feel so guilty. I've never worried about long sleeves because I didn't think the scars were noticeable, but the newer ones are and even the ones that are 15 years old are pretty stark against my tan.
I don't know what to do, DH is the only person who really knows about it but he doesn't understand the extent of my feelings. I worry he sees my self harming as a manipulative tool to make him feel bad if we have argued. He is not from a culture where mental health is a 'thing' and it's not really something I understand either.
I feel like I need to do something because it is starting to affect my life, I've tried making positive changes to feel better about myself but it hasn't helped. I'm a very anxious person and get stressed very easily which doesn't help matters.
I would feel so silly going to a doctor about this. I am deeply ashamed and I would feel so awkward explaining my feelings to a GP. What can they even do anyway? I don't like the idea of taking medication as that isn't solving the problem, is it?
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Advice re: depression & self harming
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Tassles2015 · 28/08/2015 01:04
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