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Teenager wants me to snap out of it

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Snog Thu 23-Jul-15 11:56:57

My 15 year old is constantly telling me to get a job, snap out of it and that I don't want to get well.
I've been off work with stress related illness, anxiety and depression for 6 months and am still unwell.
Any tips for dealing with my dd? She is very angry with me.

Maybe she is scared - it can be pretty scary thinking that your parent isn't the strong bulwark against the world that you thought they were, and that they have been throughout your childhood?

Can you sit down with her, and show her some material on stress, anxiety and depression, to help her realise that it isn't something you have decided to have or that you can decide to get over, just like that - it is an illness, from which you will need time to recover - but that you are doing x, y and z to aid your recovery.

Snog Thu 23-Jul-15 18:11:27

Thank you, I think that's insightful about her feeling scared.

Unfortunately she refuses to read have nything about stress and depression as I have suggested it a few times.

gamerchick Thu 23-Jul-15 18:27:56

Does she know what steps you're taking to get well again? I mean if for eg you were lying in bed all day with the curtains drawn and leaving the bulk of slog to her or other family members then she will lose patience after a bit because it doesn't look like you're trying.

She's 15.. I'm 40 and my patience can wear thin if it looks like someone isn't trying even little steps after a while.. God knows how it wi affect a teenager.

Snog Thu 23-Jul-15 20:35:49

I'm doing lots of things to get well but yes it looks to her like I'm not making much progress. I rarely stay in bed although I often go to bed early, I walk for one hour a day, do some housework and meet a friend most days and have counselling once a week.
I can't manage full day outings but can do half days. I often can't watch TV,

Snog Thu 23-Jul-15 20:40:48

Whilst I am doing the appropriate things to get well, my dd thinks the things I'm doing are nonsense and wrong since they haven't fixed me in six months.
I also take ADs and practice mindfulness. I am mainly very positive in my outlook and I truly am trying to fix myself!

gamerchick Thu 23-Jul-15 21:04:58

Well it sounds like you're doing ok to me... Baby steps.

What has your 15 yr old got going on in her life? Does she talk to you, is she worried about money perhaps? I remember being 15 and it royally sucks in the brain department. Do you spend any time together?

It may make you feel a bit insecure if one of your parents is recovering from any pretty serious illness no matter what it is. Fear can come across as anger.

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