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depression - cant stop thinking of terrible things about my DD or Dp

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biglips · 31/08/2006 22:42

and i hate it . As i can sit on the couch or even on here having lovely thoughts of DD or Dp and suddenly i think of summat terrible. It had gone worse since ive had DD 22m ago as i used to just have Dp to worry about as he said that im a worrier.

im on ADS tabs but would it still work even if im having these thoughts? as im terrified of losing them

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biglips · 31/08/2006 23:14

before i go to bed

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notasheep · 31/08/2006 23:20

Think its quite common to have thoughts like this-most people do though dont admit it.
When your a Mum the whole life,mortality thing becomes a lot serious.

My terror is dying young and leaving dp,dd and ds-your not alone .

Sorry not much help

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batoutofhell · 31/08/2006 23:38

Biglips-know exactly what you mean.
I always have to hug and kiss ds and dd everytime they go out with dh ,even if they are going 5 mins down the road, sometimes have horrible thoughts also and can't shake them out of my head then I feel guity for thinking them.

i think mine stem from both my parents dying a few years back and me not getting to say goodbye.

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HyacinthB · 31/08/2006 23:48

It's normal to have these thoughts from time to time, but if they are totally pre-occupying you it sounds like your ADs are not quite hitting the spot....

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biglips · 01/09/2006 07:58

so its poss that the ADS is not working yet as it even knackering me out too

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emily05 · 01/09/2006 08:22

I have this exact problem. Infact obsessing about ds and dp dying was so bad I realised that it was obsessive and was making me ill! I would lay awake just thinking about it.

Anyway i have been on ads for about 9 months now and feel sooooo much more balanced and hardly thinking about it anymore. I have also tried using cognative therapy. see here
this has really helped alot. it teaches you to recognise unhealthy thought prosesses and change them.

dont feel that you are alone in this. I think all mothers have it to a degree - sort of mothernatures way of wanting you to instinctively protect your family. But because you are feeling depressed it escalates these emotions.

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biglips · 01/09/2006 08:26

Emily - im waiting for my CT counselling as have been for a year!! Dp told me to call them today whihc i will at 9am