New therapist. Lovely but she made a comment that everyone tries their best ( which I agree with) but also my abusive ex was 'trying his best.' She has shown a bit of compassion towards him as well as acknowledging he was an arse. She has also hinted forgiveness towards him could be freeing. I am not really interested about forgiving him but I do want to forgive myself for putting up with him. This I find very hard.
I don't think she is taking sides but I don't really agree that he was trying his best. He was trying his best to destroy my independence. I want to try this therapist out for a bit longer but I am messed up about this chap and I don't want to hear any sympathy for him. I don't want her to slag him off necessarily but how can I handle this?
She specialises in emdr therapy which I hope can help release some of the trauma from the abuse so I want to stick with it.
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