I'm not really sure where to start. I've always had depressive tendencies but since I had DD I've been pretty terrible and I'm on ADs for anxiety and depression. I thought they were working but I've been slipping again and really not coping. I don't want to increase the dose I'm on because the side effects, especially the insomnia, dizziness and constant sugar craving are getting too much for me now. I'm very limited as to choice of medication because I'm breastfeeding, so I'm a bit stuck.
I'm starting to think that it's just an inevitable result of how generally shit my life is. Don't get me wrong, I know I'm very lucky to have everything I have. But I'm just so sick of everything.
I'm going back to work in about three weeks and the only people I've seen since I've been off have been family, I don't have any friends left. I occasionally get invited on nights out which of course I have to turn down, and I completely understand why they don't want to bother with me anymore. I've tried baby groups (well, been basically frogmarched to them by a surestart worker) and it was awful, I can't bring myself to go to any more, which I feel painfully guilty about.
I'm a shit mother, which is pathetic when you consider that it's all I do all day. When DD cries I panic, I have no idea what to do with her, sometimes I can't bring myself to pick her up, I've been known to shout at her which I know is horrible. I never get anything done because if I even think about leaving the room she starts shrieking. She doesn't sleep at night, when I tell the health visitor that she wakes up every hour, she just looks at me like I'm an idiot and tells me to put her in her cot and stroke her belly and she'll go to sleep (yeah, right). I don't really know what I'm supposed to DO with her all day. I love her more than anything, of course I do, but I feel like I'm letting her down so badly.
People tell me to take time to myself, go out, do something I enjoy, blah blah blah... but I don't enjoy anything, and even if I did I don't have bloody time. I'm looking forward to going back to work but I only work part time, and its when DP is at home anyway so when I would normally do the housework etc. and its not an especially fulfilling job.
I'm just totally fed up.
I think I just had to get all that out somehow.
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Don't know where to go from here
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FriendlyElephant · 18/10/2013 17:47
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