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Depression..Do I need to just get a grip ?!

(11 Posts)
Primadonnagirl Wed 26-Dec-12 21:31:21

I hope you can all give me some warm friendly advice....I can just feel a gloom descending and I don't know why. I have a lovely life and feel ashamed that I should be remotely unhappy but I can't feel this gloom just descending and I want to know how to stop it. Christmas is always difficult for me ( dysfunctionals families includining multiple divorces alcoholism etc,) but then it is for most people. But this year has been so difficult without any particular reason and I image been on the verge of tears all the time...or numb when I should be happy. About ten years ago I went through something similar ..saw the doc and went on Citalopram for two months an the just decided to get a grip..My issue now is should I go see the doc before it gets worse but then again I don't want the same to happen I.e. go on pills for a bit and them sort myself out anyway. I honestly don't know what's wrong...I have a good life, v happy with hubby,job etc. Thought I might be menopausal but doc says not ( tests proved that although having hot flushes at 43).. I have had friends with depression so I know how truly horrible it can be and I know I'm nowhere near that but I want to stop it getting worse..just want to feel better but should I just get a grip?

scottishmummy Wed 26-Dec-12 21:36:31

sorry it's hard time,it's not a matter of get a grip.low mood is biochemical,social
good nutrition,activity exercise all help as does AD. ad a legitimate proven treatment
you seem ambivalent about ad,why?if you had cardiac condition you'd take beta blockers

TheJoyfulChristmasJumper Wed 26-Dec-12 21:40:35

There doesn't have to be a reason for depression - sometimes it's just a chemical imbalance in your brain. I've had depression off and on since my early teens (I'm 31) and only 4 times has there been a reason for it. Please don't feel that you should just get a grip, sometimes you can't.

If you only took ADs for a couple of months then they may not have had a chance to work properly. I would suggest going to your doctor and discussing how you feel, and see what they suggest.

scottishmummy Wed 26-Dec-12 21:48:46

go back gp,ask for meds review.depression is a treatable illness
no one needs to get a grip,in way no one says that to diabetics.only mental illness
don't be so hard on yourself,see gp discuss various treatment options.good luck

Primadonnagirl Wed 26-Dec-12 21:53:01

Thanks ..even your kind words have mde me cry which makes me think it's time to do something about it..suppose I just fear I don't deserve to feel this way if that makes sense when I think about the problems some people have

scottishmummy Wed 26-Dec-12 21:59:01

you don't have to diminish your pain because others suffer too.you're worthy too
you know what its hard,as yes one can materially have lots but feel mentally bereft
depression will affect your self worth ,you'll feel less deserving,it gies with the condition

susanann Wed 26-Dec-12 22:02:45

I understand where youre coming from. Im the same. Go back to the doc. Have you considered that it could be SAD, its the right time of year. Im not sure how good those tests are for menopause, it could be early onset menopause. If not I would find out why youre having the hot flushes.

TheJoyfulChristmasJumper Wed 26-Dec-12 22:03:55

^^ What she said! grin

TheJoyfulChristmasJumper Wed 26-Dec-12 22:06:35

That was intended to agree with scottishmummy... confused

You could have absolutely everything you want and need in life but still be depressed. Equally I've known people have incredibly difficult lives without suffering from depression.

Primadonnagirl Wed 26-Dec-12 22:10:43

Yes I did think I was dismissed a bit too quickly re hot flushes ... Think I ll wait till new year and then go back to docs and explain everything.. Guess I've always associated depression with an event in the past eg I've had friends with PND or depression as a result of major life challenges but never really heard of it just happening with no reason ...but that's def what it feels like for me...turning into a right miserable cow and I don't like myself! but feel better for your advice so many thanks and have a sherry on me!xx

scottishmummy Wed 26-Dec-12 22:39:17

depression doesn't need a catastrophic trigger,it just is
so stop comparisons, its not who's had it worse competition
I'll take you up on a drink make mine a builder tea

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