Hi there, first time poster in mental health but long overdue! Warning-this might be a bit of a ramble-sorry!
I am struggling at the moment and hoped that some of you could give me some words of advice/support. I have really been struggling since the birth of my youngest dd 3 years ago. have another dd who is nearly 5. I started on citalopram 20mg nearly 2 years ago and had a pretty good run of 18 months or so, but never felt mentally quite right. Since November I have been ill on and off, like many of us! I had a horrid stomach bug, which then turned into gastritis which was awful and have also had sciatica for the last 3 months which has worsened over the last month or so, and for which I'm having physio, so am on lots of codeine but really watching my dosage (last thing I want is an addiction!)
The problem I have is that, I know getting ill is part of life, but relatively'minor' illnesses trigger some appalling emotional reaction in me since I've had children. I have dealt OK with the sciatica (yes, I'm fed up, but I can manage that!) but I woke up this morning feeling my symptoms of gastritis again, albeit mild, and immediately felt anxious, which led me to feel extremely low. I then start the cycle of self hatred! I feel pathetic and guilt ridden when I think about what other people have to deal with, and that starts the spiral of me feeling like a scared worthless person who can't even deal with something minor. I fear that the way I feel both mentally and physically is going to go on for ever and that I deserve it. In january when I had horrid gastritis I was actually getting very dark thoughts about topping myself (I would never have done it!) which I know is pathetic.I then get scared that my husband is going to leave me as I'm such a nightmare and my dd's are going to be forever scarred by having such a terrible mother. I then fear I'm going to be diagnosed with something really bad physically in the future and 'then, I'll be sorry to have been so silly about a minor illness'. The funny thing is, that with some issues, I'm extremely strong and deal with stuff quite well! I used to be a professional woman who made difficult decisions everyday!
I feel so ashamed writing this down as people very close to me have had far worse things to cope with. When I feel physically well, I am not this person. I can see that I have a good marriage and that I do a fairly good job with my dd's, and how lucky I am. I generally can seem like a positive, strong, cheerful kind of person to the outside world when I'm well and I have a good circle of nice friends. I have thought about returning to work to give me a focus on something else, but I fear that I'm going to be off sick such alot and not be able to hold down a job. I live in fear of illness.I had generic counselling last year through the GP practice. It was OK but never really resolved these issues as I think I was quite well at the time so played these issues down.
Sorry for the long rambling message but just wondered whether anyone else has felt this way or could offer some words of advice. I feel that my life is passing me by and I want to enjoy it.
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Anyone else feel like this?
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leolion · 22/02/2011 11:59
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