I feel as if everything is coming to a head. DS is 8 months old and i start back at work next week. Sorry, this is my first post please be gentle.
After his paternal leave ended, my DH ended up being off with depression and anxiety for 5 weeks, then returned to work for a couple of months and was off for 8 weeks. He can be a very hands on dad, but when his anxiety is bad he finds it hard to "handle" DS, and this subesquently gives him feelings of guilt.
I find myself dwelling on times when I could have used DH's support - like he left me in hospital alone an hour after traumatic birth, is this normal? (he was anxious and tired), his family swamped me by visiting in groups of NINE daily and he didnt want to hurt their feelings by asking them to leave.
Now i feel like i have been carrying him for the last 8 months, I am terrified of returning to work, emotional about leaving DS, and have no-one to turn to, I cannot tell worries, thoughts concerns etc to DH in case I make his anxiety bad again.
I dont know if this should be in this topic, but need a vent, moan and advice. I feel as if I walk on eggshells all the time for fear of tipping him over the edge - he had suicidal thoughts. To everyone (including my family) i am the happy-go-lucky one with no worries. I love my husband dearly, but just wish he could be the strong one, I dont think i can manage it for much longer. I do not want to resent my DH, I know he is ill. Sorry for the legnth of this.
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Mental health
Husband with anxiety
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Jimmiejammy · 31/01/2011 00:41
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