how do i get a life again?

[maighdlin]

I have finally come out of the other side of severe PND that lasted for just over a year. i feel a lot better but I'm starting to realise how little of a social life i had. I was horribly sick with hyperemis during my pregnancy so very rarely left the house. then had DD and was in the house with a newborn. I then developed the PND. When i had PND my social worker and family convinced me to finally apply to university. at the time i thought i couldn't do it but i got my place and started in september. i was still a bit depressed when i started but have came on since.

the problem is now im on the other side of it i have no friends. i drifted away from my friends during my pregnancy and depression and they all have different lives with no room in them for me. my best friend moved away to go to university just after i had dd. i find it really difficult to talk to any one in my classes at uni as they are all 18 young free and single whereas im not much older than them but am married with my own house and child. i just feel so lonely and it was hell eating on my own every day at uni. i think the time of year is making it worse atm because i have not been invited out with any one to xmas parties or shopping trips or anything like that. i want to go out more and have fun but have no one to do it with. DH is very much a stay at home person and i do love him and have fun with him, but i need other people to talk to. i just want to have a friend again to go and get coffee with and chat about tv and go shopping with and go out dancing.

I am really worried that my loneliness will bring me back into depression. i was thinking of going to some sure start things to meet people but im so busy doing my uni work during the week to go to them.

has anyone else found themselves friendless after depression? im just so desperate to make a friend.