Dear All, I don't know if this is the right thread to post this. I have been on this Board before in times of stress and it's been so helpful and supportive. I have depression and have been on Citalopram for about 3 years which helped me initially but now I feel in pieces again. The things that caused the depression were a violent partner and a bad marriage and all kinds of family politics plus bringing up a child in the middle of all this, ds now 12 yo. About 18 months ago, with my own strength and from a very minimised position, I got a good job in a charity, divorced my Ex-P, bought him out of the house, remortgaged and felt very proud of myself. But, I was amazed that instead of suddenly becoming a new successful person when I got my freedom, I pretty much collapsed by degrees and have been in decline ever since. I'm terrible living alone. I was always terrified before I pressed all these buttons that one day I'd have problems in my working life and I'd crumble and now that's happening too. By degrees I've been taking work home and struggling to cope with more pressure and some honestly (no exaggeration) difficult situations and people at work. Obviously someone with better mental health would cope, but it's my worse nightmare come true and everything is sliding. House is a mess, no close or wise family can help, I've kept friends at a distance while I licked my own wounds and I really do feel alone. I think I'm going to have to put my hand up at work and say I'm really struggling with depression and personal issues that are now affecting work. I haven't felt happy for over a year and I put a brave face on things, but after what I've been through it's hard for me to talk about personal things to people at work. There have been some big changes at work that have sidelined me a bit and I don't get on with one of my managers which doesn't help with me confiding in her. The thought of going off work with depression is really distressing me, I'm scared it just looks like I can't handle responsibility. I think I'm losing perspective and I can't concentrate or tidy up my house, wash up or get myself out of the hole. The solution may be obvious to someone outside myself, so please speak frankly and advise because I feel lost in my problems on the run up to the Xmas which is a distressing time for me in recent years. Thank you. xx
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Depressed, lonely and struggling before Xmas
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StrawberryYogs · 19/12/2010 13:47
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