I will try to not make this long.
H has been in and out of work since the beginning of last year due to depression. He has on all of these occasions been signed off from work by his doctor. We had a bit of a ride getting him on the right antidepressant and unfortunately this one he is currently on doesn't seem to be working any more. He has attended work OH twice, both times he was managing his depression. The last time was at the end of last year and at the time he was ok when he attended. Not long after a few things happened - I was made redundant and he had a big increase of stress at work. This resulted in him being signed off work again after Christmas and he is currently still off.
He has provided sick note for the absences, though some have been late. The main problem has been him keeping in touch with work, which he hasn't really done. He knows he must do this and tries to, I have seen him try and ring work but he hasn't been able to bring himself to do it. He is the same about answering the phone and that's not just about work but pretty much anyone. He has stuck his head in the sand, he doesn't seem to be getting any better and now we are on the precipice of him getting fired (I think).
Along with the letter inviting him to a meeting there was bits of policies and also evidence from the managers point of view of what they have been doing. Now having gone through all of this with him I will say that H hasn't done what he has meant to have done. Part of him being ill is the whole being unable to communicate effectively and they do not accept texts as a way of keeping in touch, which he struggles he even do that sometimes. Similarly there have been things that management have said they would do but haven't done. That doesn't make H not doing what he's meant to any better, I'm just putting that there.
I've read through all the paper work, I have tried to take it all in, but I just don't know what we can do. He was trying to focus on getting better to go back to work and then starting looking for another job. Part of his job is a cause of his depression. I have begged and pleaded with him to get in touch with work, I know it's not his fault that he is ill. The letter has stated that he can take someone with him but he isn't part of the Union and there isn't a work colleague he feels he can take with him. How does he prepare for this? I am so stressed at the moment. He hasn't been receiving any form of sick pay for the past two months and we are severely struggling on my wage alone. I'm sorry if this is all over the place, my head is pretty much all over the place at the moment and we have not very long to get him prepared for this meeting. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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IThinkIveHadEnough · 23/04/2016 16:50
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