Hi, just hoping for some advice / comments from someone who has already done this. I've been married for 8 years. Most not happy - originally due to H lack financial input (any at all) ad lack of input into child care. I originally stayed as I didn't want to separate and as a High earner I was able to work and do bulk of child care. Needless to say this wasn't enough for him and he moved on to worse activities including spending alot and making the house a miserable place to be by hoarding for all his hobbies and interests. Ultimately this as progressed to ruining holidays and friendships by his unpredictable and selfish behaviour.
I cant believe i have been so stupid putting up with this. I looked into escaping several times over the years but felt unable to leave as I was warned by solicitors that since he wont work most of the time he could claim that he was main child-carer and be awarded custody of the children. However, I now have realised that I have to get out and I believe that he would not be able to maintain caring for the children as he is simply not capable of looking after the children for any length of time.
So, after pressure from me he finally has a job again and I have now asked him to leave. Unsurprisingly, since he is sitting pretty making no financial contribution he will not leave. He is planning a holiday abroad next month for a couple of weeks - he will be taking unpaid time off work for this.
Solicitor originally said to me that he cannot be forced out. I am going back to see my solicitor with this in a couple of days but I am so desperately unhappy in the meantime.
Does anyone have any experience of this? Or just some anecdotes of how it is worth it in the end - to cheer me up??
It seems so unfair that he can just do whatever he wants and without any consequences. Will his continued lack of contribution be recognised? He is confidently expecting to stay on as long as possible and then take half of what I have left (all I have is some equity in the house - I don't even have money to take all the kids on holiday this summer).
Thanks for listening
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Notenjoyinglife · 06/08/2013 22:57
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