Im so worried :(

(43 Posts)
impatientlywaiting14 Tue 20-May-14 02:40:11

Hi

I got my BFP on 7th May and see my doctor on the 13th May. I am 5 weeks 3 days today (Tuesday 20th) i have had right shoulder ache on and off since around the 10th may. i have been sleeping on my right side which i don't usually do and have put the shoulder ache/pain down to this.

Yesterday (Mon may 19th) I had some mild cramps in the morning which seemed to go and returned about mid day and become stronger as the afternoon went on, they become quite uncomfortable so i went for a lay down early evening and when i woke up they had seemed to pass. around half hour after i woke i started to bleed like i was having my period which was due around the 10th. I called the hospital for advice and they advised to go to A&E. They couldn't give me much information and said its either a normal bleed, an ectopic pregnancy or I'm miscarrying. They have arranged a scan for Wednesday morning (21st).

The pain become worse and worse while i was waiting there and is now radiating in my back as well as abdomen. Before i fell pregnant i suffered with endo and it feels very much like a very painful period. Im trying to hold out hope but cant help think it doesn't look good. Im so worried im miscarrying sad

tjtownend Tue 20-May-14 04:04:50

I'm so sorry to hear this sad sad. Good luck tomorrow I wish you the best, and hope everything is ok.

Rachie1986 Tue 20-May-14 06:08:34

Thinking of you and hoping everything is ok xx

bakingmad83 Tue 20-May-14 06:44:28

Sorry to hear this, hopefully it will be good news at your scan, will be thinking of you tomorrow x

MrsPopple29 Tue 20-May-14 06:46:17

Really sorry to hear that, let us know how you get on thanks

impatientlywaiting14 Tue 20-May-14 11:14:27

Hi TJowned and Rachie

Thank-you very much for your kind words I really appreciate it xxxx

Thank-you very much Baking and MrsPopple I didn't want to bring gloom to the threads xxxx

To update im still bleeding and in pain. The pain is going though to my back and hip which is what i usually suffer with, with Endo, when im on my period. There are also other factors that are maybe TMI which make me think its not good news x will try and stay positive but its very difficult. Thanks again ladies for your kind wishes xxxx

MrsCouchman Tue 20-May-14 12:34:16

Could u try book a private scan for today? Just to save you a day of worry xx

impatientlywaiting14 Tue 20-May-14 13:24:06

Hi MrsCouchman
Thank-you for your reply, unfortunately i don't have the money there for a private scan xx

MrsCouchman Tue 20-May-14 14:47:13

Really feel for you, fingers crossed xxx

impatientlywaiting14 Tue 20-May-14 15:16:00

Thank-you xxxx

I have spoke to NHS 111 for some reassurance today and they advised me to see my GP today I have an appointment this evening they have been very good and looked after me so far so I should hopefully feel a bit more reassured once i see my doctor.

lilypie13 Tue 20-May-14 23:42:03

Thinking of you op

impatientlywaiting14 Wed 21-May-14 06:26:28

Hi lilyPie Thank-you xxxx

I visited my doctor, she gave me some painkillers to help the pain that are a bit better than paracetamol but safe to take. She didn't want to speculate on what it might or might not be and said its just best to wait for my scan today and look after myself in the meantime. She did mention a chemical pregnancy and that they don't go past 5 weeks usually.
I am 5+3 today not 5+4 so a day behind where i thought I was, although not sure if that makes much difference.

Thanks again for all the responses xx

cookielove Wed 21-May-14 08:31:11

impatiently I do hope all is well!

impatientlywaiting14 Wed 21-May-14 08:44:20

Thanks cookie xxxx

Im off for scan now will update later

hanflan Wed 21-May-14 08:47:46

Thinking of you this morning. Let us know how you get on x

OooOooTheMonkey Wed 21-May-14 08:50:53

Fingers crossed for you today thanks

impatientlywaiting14 Wed 21-May-14 12:51:20

Its sad news im afraid there was no sign of a pregnancy my uterus was completely Empty. The lady performing the scan said she thinks i miscarried as im bleeding quite a lot. They have taken my bloods to check its not ectopic, although its more to rule it out, they don't seem Concerned that it is ectopic. I need to return Friday for more bloods to be taken.
xxxx

hanflan Wed 21-May-14 13:36:25

So sorry to hear that sad flowers

cookielove Wed 21-May-14 14:34:31

So sorry sad

impatientlywaiting14 Wed 21-May-14 15:21:01

Thanks ladies I had the feeling something had gone wrong and just couldn't shake it. Personally I think it was a chemical pregnancy.
Thank-you for the kind words xx

bakingmad83 Wed 21-May-14 17:31:02

Sorry to hear your sad news x

impatientlywaiting14 Wed 21-May-14 20:04:27

Hi Baking thank-you hope your doing well xxxx

Beansprout30 Wed 21-May-14 22:48:56

Just read the first post then recognised the name, so sorry to hear this impatiently, I was so happy for you when you reported back your bfp on another thread. Take care of yourself xxx

impatientlywaiting14 Wed 21-May-14 23:33:34

Hi Bean, Bless you I know you were really happy for me. sad

I was trying to take comfort in thinking that at least it wasn't further along like others have had to endure. I was also thinking it was a chemical pregnancy, which sad as it is, at least means there was never really a baby there and it was giving me a small comfort.

iv just passed what looks like cells and the nature of how im bleeding has made me think miscarriage. Im so confused. They couldn't give me a definitive answer on whats happened either so then I can accept it one way or the other and move forward. Unfortunately my partner got a bit over excited when I got my BFP and told quite a few family members who have told people we know. So when letting them know we will have to say we suffered 'a loss" as cant actually say if it was a miscarriage or chemical pregnancy.

I was feeling ok earlier and thinking to look forward, now i feel like i have been kicked in the stomach sad

Beansprout30 Wed 21-May-14 23:59:28

Oh hun it must be awful, can only imagine how you feelsad are they likely to find out anymore on Friday do you think? Very sad news im sure it will take a little while to get over and you are bound to feel rubbish right now I do hope you and your partner can move forward and when the time is right start trying again x x x

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