Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

[Sal1977]

Our brand spanking new thread full of luck, baby dust, BFPs and a few choice swear words.

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

[Sal1977]

Sat nursing a pint.....watching the crisps in the bowl blow away in the breeze, wondering if I started a new thread properly or cocked it up good and proper!!

[OveranxiousUnderated]

Thanks for the new thread Sal

I have been lurking but not really posting much as been feeling very down and didn't want to burden you all with my lack of positivity! Anyway after 3 days of crying over everything and anything (not the first time of days of crying outbursts) I decided to go and see my Dr and I pretty much broke down after saying about 4 words. I told her how I have been feeling all the time and spoke about my surgery etc. She has put me on antidepressants for a month to see how I get on as she thinks I am suffering with depression. I have never been on medication before, so I am a little apprehensive but I'm hoping it will help in some way. She has said we can still ttc but as soon as I suspect pregnancy (ha, if ever) then I have to stop taking them.

I am due AF tomorrow or Sat really want her to arrive so I can just start a fresh - I always feel so much better at the start of my cycle than the end. Not sure what else to try this month, was thinking of giving acupuncture a go as my reflexologist went AWOL

Welcome to all the new recruits fingers crossed this will be a lucky thread.

X

[Sal1977]

Sorry you're feeling shit Anxious have you thought about talking therapies? Xx

[Sal1977]

Anyway, you'll probably get knocked up 3 minutes after taking your first tablet!!

[fedupofrainydays]

Helloooo new thread! Can I have a nice glass of red please? Perhaps a cab sav? And some salt and vinegar crisps. Great!

over I cry every time I go to the doctor. I quite wanted to be given anti depressants actually but instead got offered counselling (which I had to pay for). But I agree with sal bet you get up duffed on these antid's in no time!!

Bored of shagging. Day 8 here in a row. No temp rise so now worried not ovulating so all this sex was a waste of time. Through in a mega horrible week at work and I'm broken. 12 and 14 hr days followed by dtd is tough.

On the plus side its almost the weekend and wine time!!
Thanks for the new thread sal - good job!

[OveranxiousUnderated]

The Dr did suggest counselling but I am trying the tablets first and seeing how I get on then can get referred to counseller if I want to.

X

[OveranxiousUnderated]

Fedup - did you have the counselling then? Was it any good? X

[Sal1977]

I've had counselling twice. Once when I moved to other other end of the country when I was 22 and had no friends and felt awful, the second time was with Relate when my ex husband left me and I can honestly say it was AMAZING! I have actually thought about it in the last couple of months as I feel terrible at times and feel like I'm turning into a bitter and horrible person. I might give it until after Xmas and go then if I still feel like it then. I would choose counselling over drugs every time to be honest, but you have to go with what works for you. Just remember that they take a good couple of weeks to kick in and you can feel worse before you start to feel better! Xx

[SeasideLily]

Mine's a please! Thanks for new thread Sal.

Sorry you're so low over, can easily see how all this would have that affect. Just spent the evening on adoption threads for the first time as I just can't believe this will ever happen for me. DH thinks I'm being defeatist, but what can you do when it feels as likely as growing a third arm?

[SeasideLily]

Sorry, that is not the right first post for a posifrikintivity thread! Meant to add that I reeeaaaallly hope this is our thread, for all of us!

[CamomileHoneyVanilla]

Sorry to hear people are so down. I second talking therapies.

I'm a bit shite tonight too. Can't sleep and just had a little cry. Friend sent round a fb group to help her name her baby that's due soon and it tipped me over the edge a bit. Delighted for her but would like to be considering names for my own baby really!

I fucking hate this. It's not fair

[fedupofrainydays]

No I didn't as at the time I felt that talking wouldn't help me, being pregnant again would. With hindsight it might have been a good idea given its now ages since that dr appt and I'm still not pregnant.
Good luck for any POASers today. I don't think I will be doing this at all this month as my temps tell me I haven't even ovulated. FFS body, sort yourself out!

[Bezza2508]

Thanks for the new thread sal.

Sorry to hear everyone is feeling so down. I second what Sal said about counselling. I've had it before for something unrelated to MC and I found it really helpful.

Hope somebody has some good news for the thread today!

Welcome to the newbies too. Sorry you find yourselves here but hope you find the thread helps!

Ps. fedup I can't believe you've managed 8 days in a row...that is impressive! Out of curiosity, what is it you do? Your job sounds v similar to mine in regards to hours, career minded colleagues etc

[fedupofrainydays]

We didnt do it last night... Too tired and DH not home til 12 and I was zonked. I'm a management consultant. Subject is interesting and rewarding (I work in public sector so health, social care mainly) but its busy, hard work and a lot of commercial guff that goes with it. Similar role bezza?
Can someone have bfp news today please? We need some postifrickintivity for our new thread. Come on eggs and spermies!!!
Reconsidering the whole counselling thing now. Think I need a psychotherapist though for the state I'm in at the mo!! But sounds like you ladies have found it helpful for various things...

[Sal1977]

Morning! Anyone POAS today??

I woke up to find I've come on...all over my PJs! FFS!! Weird I feel ok about it this month as I think I knew we didn't put enough effort in to warrant a BFP!

Anyone thinking of going to or heard of the Fertility Show at Olympia? Website is HERE

[fedupofrainydays]

A whole show for fertility? Amazing! Would be slightly odd walking round seeing everyone else having fertility 'issues' and thinking... 'Have I been talking to you on MN and you know all about my sex life and cm status!!!'

Sorry about af sal

[Sundance2007]

Thanks for the new thread Sal! The same happened to me this morning...the bleeding after mc stopped about 4 days ago, thought I was in the clear so treated myself to some new pink satin pjs ...which of course got completely ruined after a random second bout of bleeding last night.Think I've managed to save them though, sorry if tmi.

I wonder if you get goody bags at the fertility show, like free opk's or free tins of pineapple!

Come on someone POAS for us....need some good news

[DaisyDoo44]

triplespin gave up acupuncture because I forgot one week then went on hol for 2 weeks then got pregnant and cancelled my appointments then miscarried... Haven't bothered starting again as I didn't find it relaxing or feel I was getting much from it plus my periods got back to normal (no spotting) although I attribute this to time rather than acupuncture really... Plus DH had to get home from work early so I could go. Bit of a hassle really! Maybe I'm too cynical. Glad I gave it a whirl, certainly didn't do any harm...

fedup I can't help but comment - we do exactly the same job! ;-)

[SeasideLily]

Good luck poas-ers, if there are any? AF loves that trick, happened to me last month, all over my friend's sheets.

Like the idea of a project desperate goody bag, Sundance! Pineapple, baby aspirin, pre-seed and a small pillow to shove under you when you wave your legs in the air after dtd :-) oh, and a bumper pack of ic opks.

[OveranxiousUnderated]

Sal, we are so in sync - I too came on first thing this morning...in my pj's!

Feel better now I'm back to day one. Really might consider some counselling next month.

X

[NerdyBird]

Thanks for the new thread sal but sorry your AF arrived in such a way! sundance hope that's the last of the bleeding for you. Mine seemed to go on for ages at a very low level, it was annoying.

No POAS for me today, might give it a shot next week. We didn't DTD last night as the boyfriend was too tired. He fell asleep on the sofa - usually it's me who does that!

[alyant79]

thanks for the new fred sal.

sorry to hear about evil, witchy AFs. boo hiss!!!!!!!!

over i'm really really sorry to hear that you've been feeling so down. But I don't think that you should stop posting because you're worried about not being positive enough - that's our job to cheer you up! I hope that the pills work, and counselling sounds like it might be a good idea too. Also want to add that despite my best intentions, I cried after about 4 seconds last time I went to the Dr too.

cam I don't blame you for feeling like shite after that fb experience. A group to help name someone else's baby! wtf??!? i hope you didn't join it.
It completely and utterly isn't fair. Agreed.

I was the first from my nct group to get pg with the second child, and now i'm most likely going to be the last to actually get another one (they are all preggo except for one) - if I even ever do. Not feeling happy about that. Not happy at all. Trying not to think about it. At least I do have DD, so i can't really complain.

[fedupofrainydays]

Ha ha daisy so you will know how hard it is with getting the dtd in... Partic with the staying away part too!!

I like the sound of goody bags too. Vessels to pee in and a one for the penis dunking (that thread still makes me laugh, was amazing!!)

[SeasideLily]

I also couldn't believe that FB group. That is definitely not normal, surely?! Who gets other ppl to name their child?! It's the last thing you want to get invited to.

[wingandtalon]

Anxious I really recommend councelling. I've had it a few times, most recently for panic attacks that were a result of my mmc. They can give you some really good advice and I also find it much easier to talk to someone I don't know. I always struggled with tablets as I was very aware that they were treating the symptoms and not the cause. Everyone is different though and they may work for you.