Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part

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Dorita75 Mon 03-Sep-12 20:28:18

Hi, thought I'd start the new thread. This is a brilliant thread for anyone trying to conceive or who has got a bfp after mc, full of lovely ladies, fab advice and a lovely place to metal, so called because someone said metal instead of mental and the rest is history......

Piemistress Thu 06-Sep-12 21:53:55

Welcome to the world little miss coffee! Congrats!! If my baby brain is right then we now have 5 baby girls and 2 baby boys graduating from this thread? I think poppyjen was due a couple of days ago too. DD is now 11 weeks, she was born 13.5 months after I lost mini pie.

Is the stats list still on the go? X

Dorita75 Thu 06-Sep-12 22:06:00

Congrats and well done misscoffee! You've done it!

polka same here, due date wasthis wk. Coffee&wine has given me a nice boost of feelgood tho!

JaffaSnaffle Thu 06-Sep-12 22:09:57

MissC, so pleased for you!! Such a long and stressful time, over and she is in your arms! X

Fantastic news MissC grin

i really hope martha is ok xxx

Jollyb Fri 07-Sep-12 08:29:39

Fantastic news little miss coffee. Enjoy your cuddling and snuggling xx

Hope all ok Martha

Good luck with the scan Pebs

Jollyb Fri 07-Sep-12 08:30:27

And Tas too x

Polka2 Fri 07-Sep-12 09:05:44

Oh * dorita* hugs, it's a weird tough time isn't it? So many reminders everywhere, I went to buy hb a birthday card and there seemed to be a million 'congrats it's twins' card everywhere, horribly horrid stomach lurch and I left the shop card less. sad

MarthasHarbour Fri 07-Sep-12 09:58:20

MissCoffee the biggest congratulations in the world ever - and i am so happy for you! It has been one hell of a journey for you and you truly deserve it smile

MarthasHarbour Fri 07-Sep-12 10:00:48

Sorry i couldnt write this on the same post as my happy post above.

I was scanned immediately, at some point this week the baby's heartbeat stopped and sadly died sad I need to go in tomorrow to be induced sad sad

I cant face a full post at the moment but i promise i will be back next week. We are not TTC any more as we cannot put ourselves through this heartache any longer. But i know you have all been worrying about me and i wanted you to know.

thanks thanks thanks

Midgetm Fri 07-Sep-12 10:16:24

Oh Martha. I wish I could come to you in RL and hug you till it hurt. We are all thinking of you, we all feel the pain of walking in your shoes. And right now all I am thinking is that life can be so bastard unfair. Some people get so much more than a fair share of shite. Please come back when you can face it, you will always have unconditional support on this thread. You and your family are in my thoughts and in my heart. wine and a lot more wine. I can't say anything else because I know it won't help. It just won't help.

MrsPear Fri 07-Sep-12 10:25:08

Oh my god martha i am so so sorry. I am thinking of you and your family. I really just don't have the words. thanks Of course come back and talk when are ready / if you can / want. We will always be here for you.

MrsPear Fri 07-Sep-12 10:30:56

misscoffee congrats on the birth of your daughter. wine

And i am glad to see more pregnancies announced grin

but i am also sorry that their have been more losses and new ladies have joined us sad

In mrspear land we had a mixed bag of a fetal anomny scan - baby is a boy but he has a tiny head and an average body confused and i have resistance in my arteries which could mean PET or IGUR. I have my 24 week appointment on Tuesday with consultant so we will see what he thinks. He kicks though and unlike ds the placenta is in my back so i already see little lumps tis very strange.

Martha I am so so sorry, I've met some lovely women in tge bereavement section one especially who was really supportive when I lost Jacob who found out at the 20 week scan that her baby had problems and died shortly after, If you wanted to talk to someone who has gone through a similar experiance.

Jacob was born at 19+6 and if there is anything you want to ask me about his birth/ what to expect please ask or pm me if you would rather. I'm so sorry xxxx

MissC congratulations xxxx

mrsp hope every thing is going well, I had my stitch just over 3 weeks ago and have found I'm far more anxious about it all than I expected

JaffaSnaffle Fri 07-Sep-12 11:34:54

Martha, my love, I am so terribly sorry. I will write proper message soon, but could not read and leave. Sending you such a big hug. Like moomin, I had a late miscarriage, and induction. Happy to talk to you, or just hold your hand afterwards.... So very very sad for you and your family xxxx

pebspop Fri 07-Sep-12 11:36:29

martha i was induced at 20 weeks as well. you can pm me for any details. i don't mind talking about it.

i was petrified before i went in and even resorted to ringing the samaritans as i didn't know who else to speak to.

it wasn't as bad as i expected. hope your experience is the same.

pebspop Fri 07-Sep-12 11:39:50

my scan went fine this morning. i was measuring 9+1. last time i was 7+4 but i am not too worried about the days this time. it was a different hopsital/machine/scanning person so any tiny slip of the hand could result in a couple of days out.

i am going back in 2 weeks and then having the 12 week scan in 3 weeks. the epu said i can pop in for a little scan before my 12 week scan appointment so i don't get any nasty suprises in the ante natal clinic. this is very good for me as i would be so stressed out in the waiting room surrounded by all the giddy women having nice scans.

tasmaniandevilchaser Fri 07-Sep-12 12:00:44

oh martha I'm so sorry sad, I wish I could give you a proper hug, life is so rubbish sometimes. I'm totally gutted for you. I will be thinking of you tomorrow, I hope that it goes as well as it can and the staff are kind. Hugs to you and your family.

tasmaniandevilchaser Fri 07-Sep-12 12:04:12

pebs glad you have good news and the EPU are being sensitive and offering you another scan before the 12 wk one.

I have good news too! smile - scan showed a little bean IN THE RIGHT PLACE!!!! Nothing in my tube. Everything exactly right for my dates, a sac with a yolk. One more scan in 2 wks to double check. I'm SO RELIEVED! I have been metalling and sweating at every single tiny niggle or twinge. I even took an overnight bag with me in case I had to be rushed into surgery blush. I just couldn't dare hope it would be ok, as the last few scans have been so horrendous.

PHEW! grin

pebs and taz really pleased all is going well

Think I forgot to say, we had a gender scan last week and are having a boy! Everything looks good but I'm still worried about the cervix and stitch failing, to the point of paranoia and constant checking for amniotic sac which is what happened last time. Some of that is because I'm comming up to the time when it happened last time at 18 weeks dd is only 4 days earlier than Jacobs so will be the anniversary of his birth in a few weeks

I'm thinking about paying for a private cervical scan but will see the mw next week and see if she can book me in for an nhs one, think going private may be quite expensive.

Oh, marrf I'm so sorry. Words are failing me - my heart is just crying for you; the bastard unfairness. I hope you and DH can draw strength from each other and you will reach out if there is any way any of us can help; we can listen (and you may find yourself short of ears, as it were) as sadly too many of us have had a late loss.

Yup, really crying here. <hugs>

Polka2 Fri 07-Sep-12 14:48:31

pebs and tas so delighted to hear your great news, keep well ladies but TODAY you are pregnant wink

martha I'm so terribly terribly sorry, the awful decision that faced you has been taken out of your hands, but that can't alleviate the heart ache you must be feeling, as the other ladies have said you know where we are if you ever ready to come back to us but and your family are in our thoughts xx

MrsPear Fri 07-Sep-12 15:12:47

pebs and taz i am glad your scans went well.

Sorry moomin what with the shock of martha's news everything went out of my mind. I am glad the stitch went well. I am just waiting to see the consultant to discuss the findings of the fetal scan (i had it done at 21 + 5) - not sure what to make of it. Sorry that anniversaries are coming up. I am on the count down to vibility - it is Sunday.

wilderumpus Fri 07-Sep-12 15:53:33

marthaI am so very sorry sad sad. I hope you look after yourself in this time and let the other ladies sad experiences help you through this time too. Come and let off steam or just chat whenever you need to x

wilderumpus Fri 07-Sep-12 15:59:06

missc I am so happy for you, congratulations!

well done pebs! how lovely to hear how well you are being looked after too.

and congrats tas, phew indeed!

and you are having a boy moomin! wow weee! lovely smile

good luck on the next scan mrspear, hopefully everything will right itself. Are you worried?

afm I missed my AF today, have a very strong BFP on frer and still have no cramping. all seems ok for now so am very grateful for that.

MarthasHarbour Fri 07-Sep-12 17:35:19

thank you thanks thank you thanks thank you all thanks

moomins and pebs i thought of you both actually, i may PM you in the next week. The only thing i am doing differently which may be a bit hmm is that we really dont want to see the baby, or have any tests done. The consultant was brilliant about it and made sure we were 'sure' about the decision. Maybe we are burying our heads in the sand but <please forgive me for saying this> we dont want to be the parents of a 'dead baby'. God that looks awful in print sad On the other hand i really can see that by acknowledging the baby you can move on and grieve - we really dont think we can cope with it though - does that make any sense to anyone?

I shall go over to the bereavement topic too next week. I am staying in this comfy mosh pit for a while as i truly love you all smile <hands manda some Handy Andies>

Totally shitting myself for tomorrow sad

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