I'm currently trying to decide between ELCS and VBAC for DC2 but that's another issue.
What I'm wondering is how people normally manage things childcare and visiting wise with their toddlers if they have them. DD1 has just turned 2 and I've never spent the night away from her before. She's been babysat several times but has always been sound asleep throughout so she has no real experience of it.
My parents live about 4 hours away and will be looking after her while I'm in hospital. Because of the distance they aren't too close/ familiar with each other but all of my local friends are working or have toddlers of their own so could only really help with the odd few hours of childcare here and there.
I'm so worried about DD1 being upset while we are apart and I'm wondering if her visiting me in hospital would be a good thing or not?
A visit to me post birth would mean my parents getting the tube into central London with the buggy which they have no experience of. They are pretty doddery and my Dad has a really sh*tty temper when stressed which I'd like to minimise the risk of DD1 ever experiencing if poss. Plus the weirdness of visiting the hospital and having to say good bye might make things worse for DD1. I don't know! Do other people's toddlers cope ok with this?
Another c-section would probably mean 2 nights away from home. Last time I was so dependent on DP being with me 24 hours to pass me the newborn as I was so groggy and sore. This time I'm hoping DP can nip home (45 mins away) to spend some time with DD1 and hopefully do bath/bedtime. Bedtimes have not been easy recently since moving DD1 from cot to bed. Does this sound feasible?
Any advice greatly appreciated as I'm more worried about DD1 than the actual birth of DC2.
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Toddlers visiting you in hospital after birth of DC2
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BettyBi0 · 15/03/2016 06:54
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