Just wondering if it's worth speaking to the hospital, I don't think I want to officially complain but I don't want anybody else to go through what I did.... Or should I just let it go?
Slightly long, sorry!
Ok, so waters broke at 5am, they were blood stained so we went to hospital. Hospital confirmed waters gone but as only having very mild contractions, sent me home. Got slowly more painful, phoned hospital at 11, they advised wasn't in enough pain and to Stay at home. My mum and DP decided actually no, you're going so we went in anyway (hosp is 35 mins away) Got there, pains much much worse, was examined by an extremely patronising uncaring midwife who spent 20 mins telling us off for going in. She finally examined me, advised cervix closed, nothing happening at all, it's going to be hours and to go home.
Whilst waiting for her to fill my papers in, had feeling that I need to go to the loo RIGHT NOW, then sat on the loo in extreme pain, sweat dripping off me, couldn't speak through contractions with my mum throwing cold water on me. Pulled emergency cord, she came back adv that I still need to go home and that was that. No examinations.
Ended up stupidly trying to go back to the car, made it one floor down in the lift and had to get out as so much pain. Was hanging off a window sill and a nurse from the floor, took one look at me, got me a chair, some water and called the head of midwifery for the hospital (whilst lots of people wandered around, fun times) she then came down, looked at me and called up for a wheelchair, bitch midwife came down and wheeled me back up, the in charge midwife was trying to find out how she had let me get into the state but in the end got angry with her and said she would speak to her later.
She then examined me again and discovered that the head was there and I was ready to push. My beautiful DS was born an hour & 40 mins later at 4.03pm with no pain relief AT ALL as it was too late apparently.
So really I just want to know if it's worth sending a letter or something just to ask her to be spoken to, she was so uncaring, didn't listen, lied about examining me and refused to believe I was in labour (I thought my mum was going to swing for her to be honest!) she changed her tune a bit when she realised she was wrong and he was going to be born NOW and was a bit nicer but I wouldn't want any other lady to go through that....
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Should I complain about my birth?
Cupcakes123 · 29/08/2014 10:53
Congratulations for you and your baby 
This sounds so awful that I would complain if it had happened to me. I believe you can also request a meeting to talk through your birth as a de-briefing. I think it especially poor for the same midwife to take charge after she had failed you so badly - that must have made for a tense atmosphere.
Good for your DP & Mum for listening to you
Thanks all, it's made me feel better, I was worried I was being a drama queen but thinking about it now, it was all pretty traumatic 
DS ended up in hospital with reflux on days 10,11&12 so I've only just really had a think about it now (he's 16 days today)
Will look into contacting the PALS people, I would love love love to see what the silly cow wrote on my notes!
Every other midwife there was lovely but she just wasn't nice at all.
(All worth it to get my gorgeous boy though)
Whereabouts are you, Cupcakes? I wonder if we had the same one 
Her haughty manner aside am I right in thinking she sent a crowning woman home because she had not checked her properly, then lied to her boss?
If that other midwife hadn't come by the baby could have been born in the car park!
Yes I would most definitely complain.
Her attitude stank but more importantly she was dangerously negligent! What if she did this again to a woman with a tenancy to bleed, a baby in a poor position who might injure mum or a cord wrapped round a neck ... and no one spotted them leaving clearly ready to push? 
I think I'm going to write a letter, not an official complaint as such but I do want it noted somewhere that they way she behaved was awful.
I do think if I don't do it, I'll regret it although I can't quite explain why It'll make me feel better?
I want to try and get hold of my notes as well, I remember reading in the notes that I was given after that I was "in established labour for 1 hour and 40 mins" but that's from when she got told to wheel me back upstairs so I'm not sure they will be entirely accurate anyway.
The midwife took those notes off me when she discharged me and baby, wish I'd read them properly now.
DS's length was written down incorrectly on them, she wrote 53cm and he was only 46cm, god, she was useless!
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