I've finally looked at the pictures that the midwves took of little Bo.

[bauble99]

It has taken me nearly two years. I know that some people who lose a baby during or soon after birth find comfort in looking at photos and hair etc. But for me it's been something that I've avoided.

On New Year's Day I opened the envelpope and little folder that the midwives had put his photos, hair and footprints into. And, although I cried, it was good...no, that's not the right word, but you know what I mean... to see him again. There's a picture of him in the plastic NHS cot with Elijah, his twin - and I'm glad that I've got that photo. The midwives said at the time that it sometimes helps to have a picture (if posible) of twins together as it's the only picture, apart from US scan pictures,that parents have.


Thanks to all of you who've been here for me after and since Bo's death.

XX

[SherlockLGJ]

Big Hugs.

[kid]

I'm pleased to hear you got some comfort from being able to see Bo again. That photo of Bo and Elijah together is going to be treasured by all of you I'd imagine.

[mummytosteven]

((Bubble))

[LadyTophamHatt]

I feel happy and sad for you bubble...I'm glad you've reached such a big milestone and found it a "good" thing.


xxxx

[hoxtonchick]

thinking of you bubble.

[threelittlesnowdrops]

Oh bubble

I am so glad you have all those things for Bo, especially the photo with Elijah, which must be very special. I treasure the things I have of Joseph's. He would have been 5 this week, and I promised myself some time to look through them, but it hasn't happened yet...

I am thinking of you all xxx

(threelittlebabies btw, with a new name in honour of Joseph's birthday)

[CrocodileKate]

Am glad and sad for you xx

[Hulababy]

I am glad that you were able to get some comfort in looking at those treasured pictures. Thinking of you.

[motherinferior]

I am glad you have that photo too
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Monkeytrousers]

x

[Posey]

What an almighty milestone for you. I often wonder how you are doing, but as I don't really know you, I don't ask But nice to keep up with your news.
Thinking of you.

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

I'm so glad you have finally found the strength to see them.

xxxxx

[Pruni]

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[ledodgy]

That is such a big step and am so glad it has given you some comfort. xx

[Miaou]

Bubble, no words to say, just lots of love to you x x x

[Crystaltips]

Bless you .... well done .... and hope that you are coping

Thinking of you xx

[Dinosaur]

Bubble, I don't do many mumsnet hugs, but I'm sending one through the ether to you.

I can't think of anything else to say that doesn't sound patronising or insincere or just wrong, but I'm sending you all good wishes to you and your family x

[misdee]

xx

[zephyrcat]

Bubble I am glad that you have reached a point where you have been able to look at them, I'm sure that they will be a massive comfort to you for a long time to come - esp of Bo and Elijah together.

I'm like Posey, I have often thought about you all but have always felt a little shy in speaking up to ask you as I don't really 'know' you. Silly I know!

[poptot]

So pleased to hear this has given you comfort bubble, I don't think we've ever 'chatted' but I think of you and your family often.

[LIZS]

{{hugs}} must have taken a lot of courage to open that folder. Glad you have found it comforting.

[expatinscotland]

((((HUGS))), bauble.

[MariNativityPlay]

Even if you decide never to look at those photos again bubble, you will always have them. I know all too well that moment of opening the envelope and my heart goes out to you all. Sending you lots of love XXX