This is a rambling so please don't reply to make a judgement on my behaviour. It's more of "what would you do in my position" type of question.
In a group of 8 children, who have known each other since the age of 2 (they are now 3 years old) there is 1 who is always left out and always needs an adult with them. They will scream the place down big time (i'm not exaggerating) if mum leaves for a minute to the point that the child needs 1:1 adult attention at all times.
This particular child refuses to eat with the other children, refuses to play with the other children and basically only likes the attention of adults.
I can't help thinking why the mother bothers coming along to the get-togethers. She never talks to other parents despite a big effort from all of us. The exception was at her son's 3rd birthday. She invited everyone and we on all got on like a house on fire. The party was the best my children have attended, she was a great laugh and a completely different (and likeable) person and we all thought "yes!". But then things cooled again.
Basically, the other parents - myself included - have been talking about her and her son, discussing whether the child's behaviour is 'normal' and why the child has not made any friendships - locally at least. The children are now of an age whereby they are choosing who to play with, and myself and other parents are having to instruct our children to play with this particular child - a request which is always met with protest. I understand the other 7 children not wanting to play with the child. For example, my dd approached in a friendly manner, holding her hand out and the child promptly slapped dd around the face. This child has also head butted other children and we believe this is the reason why the child is basically ostracised. After all, if all you get is a kick in the face trying to be friendly, why try?
I understand he attends nursery for a few hours and he has the same problems there.
I guess I'm trying to find out whether his behaviour is within the definition of 'normal' for a 3 and a half year old?
I must admit, out of the 30 odd 3 year olds I know, I've never met a child behaving in such a manner hence why I'm asking.
Any tips appreciated.
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mumofhelen · 06/03/2008 18:02
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