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My son is 3 years old (3 years 7 months) and started nursery in September. He goes every morning for 2.5 hours.
He's always been quite a shy child. Today when I went to pick him up, the nursery wanted to have a chat with me about him. They said that if I'm happy for them to do it, they would like to refer him to a speech therapist as they are a little concerned about his interaction with other children. They said that he is such a good boy but so quiet, to the point that if they didn't pay him attention, they wouldn't even know he was there. She said that she thinks his language skills are ok but has concerns because he is due to start school in September and feels that he could be completely forgotten about if he continues like this.
She said he doesn't interact with any of the other children, will sit and play on his own and just goes into his own world completely, sometimes to the point where it's hard to even get his attention. They said that he can sometimes be like that even when he's not playing with anything. He does apparently skirt around the other children but never really engages with them.
I have friends with children of a similar age, although mainly girls and, apart from the more tomboyish ones, he isn't fussed with playing with them at all. If they come round, sometimes they'll play, chasing each other round, giggling and screaming, thoroughly enjoying themselves but other times, he'll just do his own thing.
I said that I'm happy for them to refer him if they feel that it could help as I have worried about his interaction with other kids myself but then just this Sunday, we went to the park and I saw a little boy who is in his nursery class. This boy kept looking at us and then him and my son went off playing on their scooters, giggling and chatting. I said to my husband that it made me really happy to see that as I haven't seen him interact with any of the other nursery children before.
He has a younger brother (he's 2) and they play together all the time, he also has cousins who he plays with.
We generally go to softplay every week or 2 and sometimes kids will approach him and he will play with them. To me, it seems that he retracts into himself when he's with a big circle of children.
I have wondered about his hearing at times but if I were to whisper to him "do you want some crisps", he'd hear that. He responds to his name and generally interacts really well with people he's close to, like family and close friends who he sees a lot of.
Do you think this is just shyness or do you think that it could be something a little more? I keep thinking about autism and asperbergers but everything else with him is fine. He makes good eye contact, talks ok (his speech isn't up to the standard of some his age but you can understand everything he says, he just sometimes gets stuck on what word to use in sentences). He's just a normal boy, aside from this socialising thing.
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3 year old not interacting at nursery
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susan198130 · 08/02/2016 21:23
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