Hi all
Life is pretty dire at the moment with my son's behaviour which seems to be having a knock on effect on pretty much everything including relationship with my partner :(.
He is a beautiful little boy but demanding doesn't begin to cover his temperament, it is incessant. He says NO from the minute he opens his eyes it seems to when he goes to bed and we are completely exhausted. He is incredibly particular over EVERYTHING for instance he will demand a particular item of clothing to wear and if said item is dirty/wet so he can't wear it, he will have an epic meltdown screaming, throwing things, trying to break toys, banging his ehad aginst the floor, the whole bit. He is constantly seconds away from a breakdown and my nerves are frazzled. People say to ignore the bad behaviour which I try to (praising the good obviously) but it isnt always practical to ignore him as I work 3 days a week and I don't have time to wait 30 mins for the tantrum to pass, we have to get to nursery and work on time. I've been late to work 6 times in the last couple of months due to these battles and its really stressful as I've always been on time and bosses aren't happy.
DS was potty trained a few months ago and he was doing well, this seems to have gone backwards as what he'll do is wet/soil himself just as we're leaving the house (having refused x10 to sit on the potty and have a try before we leave), which delays us all the more. Yesterday I asked him over and over to sit on the pot, he continually refused and ran away from me, he then ran straight past the potty, into the kitchen and pooed on the floor :(. He knew full well he shouldnt have and was just saying 'i wont do it on the potty'. It is most definitely a wont not a can't.
Weekends are pretty miserable as we try to plan ncie afternoons out, the museum, park, soft play, playdates etc but far more often that not he says NO NO NO and 'I want to tay at home'. This makes it harder again because I find it much better to get out and about and he;s incredibly destructive at home.
I'm terribly worried that theres more to his behaviour than normal 'terrible twos'. Im completely wrung out and my partner and myself have nothing left for one another as we're both nackered at the end of the day. DP works full time and generally walks in in the middle of a meltdown as theyre that frequent and says he sometimes dreads coming home awful as it sounds.
My son is likely to be my only child and it breaks my heart that, although I love him deeply I'm not enjoying him at all. Everything is a constant battle. I'm in tears typing this, thank you if youve made it to the end, I'd really appreciate any thoughts or advice.
Thank you.
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jasmineramsden · 26/02/2014 10:46
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