To hate mothers day?

[sheepgomeep]

I did used to like it but in later years I find it over commercialised and not in good taste.
It's always me that gets up with the kids anyway and cooks the tea.

and it must be so hard for those whose mums or children who have passed away and all thats left is memories and sadness. And also for those whose mumsdon't want to know.

I feel the same about fathers day, my dad died 2 weeks before fathers day and i find that hard too

[fernie3]

I actually quite like mothers day, my mum died when I was young but I just see it as a day to give her a thought and be grateful that I am here with my children (and for chocolate).

[sheepgomeep]

perhaps I'm just a miserable bugger then

I did find out that my ex partner was having an affair on mothers day years ago so I think that clouded the day for me

[porcamiseria]

sheep - I think that might be a deciding factor !!!!! self gift I'd say

[ACretinoidPsychoanal]

yanbu.

its just another day in this house.

kids too young to buy me a card anyway.

[googietheegg]

I don't really like it because my mum thinks we have a great relationship, whereas I don't, yet she expects all the gushing card shit

Also, I'm not a mum yet and it makes me wonder if I'll even get given a mother's day card of my own.

Shit all round really.

[harecare]

YANBU to dislike commercialised "Mothers Day", but we celebrate Mothering Sunday in our house.
I love my Mum so I'm happy to send her a card and give her a call. I usually take her out when I visit at Easter. I'm hoping to have a bit of a lie in on Sunday and will arrange that we eat out so I don't have to cook - I will point DP to the pens and card in the hope that DD1 will create something for me.
I do all the childcare so it's nice for me to have a bit of a day off and nice for DP and DDs to spend time together.

[southeastastra]

my mum died years ago, but i still remember her on mother's day. it doesn't make me particularly maudlin. christmas does though

[darkandstormy]

Didnt Jade Goody die on mothers day that was so sad,poor Jade.I hope her to boys are doing okay.

[MorrisZapp]

It's crap isn't it.

The problem for me is that every mother thinks she should be number one on mothers day, but many mothers have mothers of their own - I've just said this on another thread so sorry if it's getting boring!

I have a mum and a gran who both expect the royal treatment, my sister and I bend over backwards to keep them both happy, yet nobody notices or mentions that my sister is a mother too.

By next mother's day I'll be a mother myself (fingers crossed) and I can't wait to see my mum's face when I tell her I'll be getting pampered on the day so can't take her for lunch. She will look lost and confused, then she will be forced to accept that she isn't the only mum and not all the attention should begin and end with her!

Though knowing me I'll still accommodate her. And my gran. God it'll be a nightmare

Also, men have mothers of their own yet are expected to pamper their wives for mothers day and not their own mums.

Wouldn't it be easier (Bridget Jones christmas manifesto) if all the mums just pampered themsleves, and then couldn't complain at getting short changed or neglected? God knows I have no desire myself to eat an over priced lunch and be given a complimentary carnation.

[muggglewump]

I'm used to it.

I won't get anything unless I pay for it (lone parent), I'll still have DD on my own all day, though she's a good kid and I enjoy her company.

I'm looking forward to it this year, it's the first race of the season, I'm a massive F1 fan, and I've earmarked some cash for a chinese takeaway.
Oh, and I intend to go to town on Monday and buy myself loads of flowers that are reduced to half price!

[potoftea]

I hate it too.
Didn't mind it when I was younger but since I've had children I see it differently.
I hate them being forced to treat me just because of a date on the calender. It feels so false.
Also all the ads on tv, etc. about it, make me feel so sorry for those who have crap mothers. It must already be hard for them, but to have it rubbed in their faces that they are missing out isn't fair.
And of course the mothers who have lost a child, or the woman longing to become mothers, well how hard is it for them.
All in all I find it cringy, but I also hate Valentine's Day, so maybe I'm just horrible.

[muggglewump]

Oh, and my Mu died when I was 8 months pregnant. I can't let that affect Mother's Day forever, so I don't.

[muggglewump]

Mum, not Mu.

[verytellytubby]

I don't hate it but I'm completely indifferent. Couldn't give a flying monkey's!

I am happy though I just got cards for my DT's who signed their names for the first time. Little pleasures

[dawntigga]

You aren't on your own - if other people want to celebrate it fine but for me:

If you can't show me you love me and respect me every freaking day, don't bother because you've been guilt tripped into it!

AndBreathTiggaxx

[serajen]

it's just a marketing exercise, over-commercialised, i ignore it if possible, who are THEY to tell us when to appreciate our mums or be appreciated if we are the mums? You can do that any day.

[pointylog]

mothers' an d fathers' days are what you want to make of them and if you want to duck and ignore it, then fine.

[sheepgomeep]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like this then.

Hate valentines day shit too.

Although did enjoy the last one as we had friends over for a meal who are very good company

[chegirlWILLbeserene]

I try and like it and my OH is lovely and makes an effort. But its just so very sad that my DD isnt here and I cant get past that.

I love my boys so much but my teenager is going through a very very self absorbed stage and pretty much despises me atm, the little ones are very loving. But me and DD were very close and she would be the one who bought me the 'best mum in the universe' mug or something silly. Cant see teen doing that as he plainly thinks I am the worst mum in the universe right now.

I feel I need to make the effort to make it nice for the children, its not their fault their sister has died. I dont want it to ruin the rest of their lives. I just want to hide really but that wouldnt be fair on the others.

I am very lucky to have my boys (even the stroppy teen) and another on the way and I do really count my blessings. Just miss her.

[chegirlWILLbeserene]

Also feel bad for OH as he lost his beloved mum in March 3 years ago and I know he still feels it badly and he still makes such a nice effort for me.

[sheepgomeep]

chegirl your OH sounds lovely too.

I always think of a friend of mine on Mothers days, well all events like xmas etc really)who lost her 6 year old son to drowning in 2006. He was her only child too and I know she finds mothers day very hard.

[GettinTrimmer]

hope the day goes OK for you Chegirl.

There were many posters last year who were disappointed and upset about mothers day as they didn't get their lay in/flowers/a rest, I can see where you are coming from Sheepgomeep. So sorry to hear about your friend.

I concentrate on my mum, I'm just off to make a chocolate cheesecake to take round for lunch tomorrow. I've lowered my expectations a bit and don't expect to put my feet up all day with a good book!

[MmeBlueberry]

If you go back to the origins of Mothering Sunday, it is quite a nice holiday. Hard for us to put into practice, but lovely if we could.