to be pissed off with my neighbour

[kateecass]

ok, i live on a road that only has parking on the road and is busy. Most people have more than one car so it gets full up at night. Anyway, my in-laws are staying with us as my MIL had an op last week and has a follow up tomorrow.

Part of the reason they are also staying rather than going home is they have stayed to help out with my kids so that I could go and see my newborn nephew for a few days.

Anyway, they came on Tues and parked outside my neighbours house. They haven't moved their car since then and this morning my DH found a note PASTED to their car saying "to the person who has abandonned their car outside my house it has been most inconvenient and I've had to unpack bags please park somewhere else in future". I can see her point a bit as I do get a bit annoyed if people park outside our house for days in a row (I have kids and bags to unpack) and if I'd been here I probably would have asked them to move it outside our house. BUT to paste the note so that it took my and another neighbour to get it off with soapy water (we were trying to do it in secret so that MIL wouldn't get upset) also she could have asked if anyone knew who it was rather than posting it in the night or early this morning.

I nearly went to knock on her door in my PJs! I was told by another neighbour that she is a bit like this so probably not a good thing.

So do you think IABU or do you think next time she parks outside my house I should go and ask her how long she plans to stay cos she has parked there for a long time before and it doesn't really bother me cos it's the nature of the road we live on.

Oh, and the icing on the cake is that I was told when her sister goes on holiday from Manchester airport she leaves her car on the road!!!

aaah, that feels better!

[itsmeolord]

Well it was quite inconsiderate of your pil to park outside their house for days without moving the car, I should think it did cause some inconvenience.

So, YABU. Your neighbours are probably fed up with other people blocking their access to their house and lost their rag.
Whilst it sounds like there is no designated parking on your road, it is surely polite to consider others when parking on a residential street?

If you were going to be away seeing you nephew for a few days why didn't your pil park outside your house?

[ilovepiccolina]

... and breathe!

You see, there are different rules for some aren't there? OK for her sister to do this, of course.

It's a public road. She can't complain about people parking outside her house. But, to be fair, I would put it outside yours if possible.

[ilovepiccolina]

itsme- no mention of anyone blocking access.

[crossingjordan]

Just get a driveway.

[itsmeolord]

of course they've blocked access. They haven't had access to park outside their house to unpack shopping/children/pet llama etc because op's pil left their car there for days.

[kateecass]

Getting a driveway would involve moving. Nobody has a driveway there's usually only space outside the house during the day. Otherwise you just park where you can, nobody else gets annoyed with it it's just part of living on this road.

His car was no way blocking access. As I said it's a busy road he'd have only been able to move it during the day and who's to say noone was parked outside our house? They live in the country so it's not the kind of thing they have to think about.

I am most annoyed at the pasting of the note to the windscreen surely she could have just put it under the wiper. Or knocked on a few doors. I wouldn't have been so annoyed otherwise.

She has parked outside my house for acouple of days before

[BarackObamasTransitVan]

It is annoying when people leave their car right outside your house for days and days but if it's a public highway then there's little you can do and little to complain about, tbh.
If your neighbour needed to park right outside her house or indeed if it simply bothered her that much then she should have knocked on a couple of doors to find out who owned the car and asked them to move it. However she couldn't be arsed and preferred to effectively vandalise the car instead. So YANBU.
When her sister parks her car there, paste a map of the airport carpark to her windscreen

[kateecass]

The fact that the piece of paper was pasted either at night or early am. My DH left at 7.30 says a lot.

If she had knocked just on our mutual neighbours door she would have said oh yes it PILs car there staying while she has an op and is looking after children I'm sure they'll move it if you knock.

[FimboFortunaFeet]

I can sort of understand if its is the type of street with terraced houses with little bits of gardens to the front, then you need to park where you can.

In my road everyone has space for 2 cars on driveways, some of them are more like carports and need to be parked up one behind each other - of course people can't be bothered doing this. But it gets on my nerves when they park right outside my front door (door opens onto street) and then it blocks people getting past. I have flower tubs out now to prevent it.

[tinkerbellesmuse]

I will never understand this "parking outside my house" business. It is a public road. Your neighbour needs to get a grip. But if she is the sort of woman who pastes a note onto a windscreen then she is clearly not to be reasoned with.

I'd probably make a point of telling all my visitors to park outside hers for the next year. Karma and all that.

[Tortington]

leave a note in the window of the car,

this is a public road

please do not stick notices on this car as i will call the police as this is vandelism

[wheresmypaddle]

I live on a little old type of street with not enough parking for everyone. Not many of the houses have drives and many people have 2,3 even 4 cars per house.

Its a tough one I find- the unwritten laws of decency on our street are that you park outside your own house where possible. If you can't park outside your own house then I'm afraid you just park where you can- even if that's outside someone elses house.

As far as I am aware guests park as close to the house they are visiting as possible.

I think YANBU, yes its frustrating when someone parks outside your house, but its a public road, you have no right over that space. Almost everyone has a good reason to want to park outside / near their own house (small kids, lots of shopping, mobility difficulties, security) but its just not practical.

However, I think its petty to get so stressed about it that you need to leave a rude note. Yes your neighbours were inconvenienced but on a street like that thats life.

We have one particular house on our street where the owners get livid if two spaces are not left outside their house. Their blood pressure must be very high as they are fighting a loosing battle. I parked there once, no space outside my house and theirs was the last space on the street. They knocked on my door at 11.30 pm and aggressively asked me to move the car- DS was fast asleep in bed and they were livid when I just said "sorry I know its a pain but I am not moving my car at this time"- thay actually threatened to call the police and have not spoken to me since!!

[nickelbabe]

yanbu: if you own your house, then you only own to the edge of the pavement: the road is free for anyone to park on (unless double yellow lines of course)

she was being a total knobhead to react in such a way, especially pasting the notice to the window.

she sounds unhinged.

[Aussieng]

It's a public road. You can park where you like. No-one has any reason or right to object to people parking outside their house. If you (by which I mean they) don't like it buy a house with a proper drive.

YANBU - Just ignore them. Nothing worse for people like that than feeling utterly powerless - which they are.

[FimboFortunaFeet]

I just want to clarify the people that park outside my house are mounting the pavement and parking on it, therefore leaving no room for anyone to get passed.

[FimboFortunaFeet]

*past

[pippa251]

6 of 1 and 1/2 a dozen of the other- The 'pasting' of the note was not on but your visitors should have not left their car there for days-
imageon if we were reading a thread 'my neighbours who have often parked their car outside my house have now let their parents park outside my house for 2 days! I've had a nightmare unpacking the shopping/ dealing with the kids etc- so I put a note on their car as I hate dealing with confrontation!'

Fact is its a public right of way but people do forget that when their trying to unload their shopping and its peeing down!

[Sassybeast]

YABU but so is your neighbour.

[FabioTwitterCat]

I would past a note on her door in the middle of the night.

WATCH IT
NEXT WE PASTE THE WINDOWS
I'LL PARK WHERE I FARKING WELL LIKE

[kateecass]

It is the kind of road where only a couple have driveways and that's at the top end. Rest are terraces and our kind of semi- that only has a metre gap between. When DH gets back late at night he often has to park on a nearby road.

Yes, my opinion of her has changed..she posted a card through my door when my DD was born saying Congrats. Didn't know she was such an awkward bugger. I can just imagine if I said anything then she'd park outside our house at every opportunity and it'd turn into a petty neighbour dispute. I have better things to do with my time.

I like custardo' idea..if I see her I might just mention that it was vandalism. Anyone, know if it officially was. Might make her think twice about doing it again to someone.

[emsyj]

I know in theory it's a public road etc, but the fact is that parking in some roads is very political. We live in a tiny cul de sac of 8 houses, of which 3 have driveways (soon to be 4 as we've just got a quote from the Council for a dropped kerb HURRAH) and 4 more of which (ours included) have SHARED driveways ((shudder)). Our bloody next door neighbour parks on the SHARED drive between our houses EVERY DAY, but that's another issue ((breathe)).
Our road basically works on the premise that everyone shows some courtesy by parking in the same place all the time. We have a notionally allocated space outside our house which either DH or I park in, depending who's home first, then the other of us will park on the front (promenade) and walk up the road. The space outside next door's house is left free for them to park one car and they exhibit the same courtesy by parking 2 of their other cars on their driveway and the final car on the front. The folks in the corner houses park in front of their houses and have to reverse out. It works quite well like that and I have to say I would find it annoying if someone breached the 'unwritten rules', even though the law says you can park anywhere on the road - courtesy dictates that you show some consideration for other residents. YABU, but so were the neighbours for taking such a drastic step.

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

I wouldn't give a fuck who parks their car outside my house and for how long. I live on a residential street with no driveways and no allocated parking. I'm just happy to be able to park on my actual street after the last place I lived, and it's free rather than having to wait 9 months for one permit per household for £90 a year thankyouverymuch.

YANBU. She's a twat. People who moan about this are entitled twats with an inflated sense of importance.

FGS if you need to unload shopping stop the car, put the hazards on, dump inside front door, then park. Not rocket science.

[nickelbabe]

Fimbo: noone should park on the pavement anway, but the highway code states that there must be 1metre of pavement between the parked car and the hedge/fence/brick wall etc for pedestrians

[Jujubean77]

YANBU they sounds like cun**

i would do as Custardo says

[OrmIrian]

This has nothing to do with the law - of course legally anyone can park there. It's to do with compromise and communications. Terraced streets like this are a pita for everyone and it needs give and take. Perhaps warning your neighbour beforehand might have helped.

However the pasting of the note on suggests that it wouldn't have