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I was travelling on the bus today to meet up with some other mummies.

There were 3 buggies already on the bus when I spotted a lady with a pram trying to get on (I realised later it was actually a friend of mine - I'm a bit short-sighted!). The driver told her it was full so she thanked him and joined the back of the queue to wait for the next one.

The horrible old cow old lady sitting in front of me loudly said "I don't know why they can't just walk".

Well, I was not having that! Her comment was down right rude, thoughtless and unneccessary. So I gave her a piece of my mind!

I should add that when I got on the bus carrying DS in a sling and carrying 2 bags she hadn't moved her bag so I could sit down, despite it being a seat for "those less able to stand". (Perhaps I am being unreasonable there and her bag needed the seat more than woman carrying 3mo child and shopping??!)

I don't normally do this kind of thing but I just lost it. AIBU? Would you do the same?

YANBU, ignorant bitch

what did you say to her?

depends what your piece of mind was ....

if it was a four letter tirade then am not sure

There was an old woman on my bus with a huge shopping trolley moaning that buggys were so big these days

YANBU

I find buses seem to attract the nastiest, rudest type of people, that includes most of the drivers around here too! So glad I passed my driving test a couple of weeks ago and wont have to use them so much anymore! Good for you for sticking up for your friend, not sure if I would have had the bottle to have done it myself.

Yes, what did you say ?

Two wrongs don't make a right, you know

Oh, and I predict this thread will turn into a nasty tirade against old people.

Not that I'm saying that is what you intend, JoesMummy

Good for you! Not sure I would have had the nerve to say anything but I certainly would have thought it!

Some people seem to think only others need to be considerate and that it doesn't apply to them, but I bet she would have moaned if you had left your bags in her way!

(I assume you weren't too rude ie you went easy on the swearing???)

YES and I have.

I have completley had it with snotty old gits on buses. I am afraid to say it is women as well in particular. The bag on the seat next to them to stop my DSs sitting down is favourite trick but a 12 stone bloke treatening to sit on their bag soon shifts them.

Frankly, I think the attitude some old people have is "I have a bus pass so I am entitled and you are not".

Gggrrrrr!

random Buggy-pushers have as much right to use the bus as anyone, but lots of old people use their buggies to help them to walk and keep their balance.

How did she react? Normally people don't answer back to rudes and that's why they think they can get away with it. Was she shocked?

I dunno ABetaDad, I have come across some really intolerant rude miserable old men as well

choice example being the one who saw my ds2's birthmark and said "he looks like he's been hit by a train"

, meant to say old people use their trolleys to help them to walk and balance

Rudes is a word I made up by the way

I have no problem with her having a shopping trolley ...just her disapproval of mums with big buggys ..

you should have asked her why she didnt just walk!! rude bitch, old or not, YANBU.

I said "Perhaps it's too hot to walk?" And something along lines of ladies with prams having just as much right to use the bus as she does.

No 4 letter tirade. This is the suburbs(!) Think she was a bit shocked though. She looked a bit uncomfortable, esp as everyone around us carefully studied the floor.

Did think later us women with our massive buggies have at least bought our tickets. How many of these nasty old crones charming old dears have bought theirs?

I have come across some really rude and intolerant black/gay/disabled people. Shall I have a rant about it ?

Oh, sorry, they are oppressed minorities who don't have access to equal rights.

I don't get this thing about buggies apparently being enormous nowadays - I mean, compared to when? My mum had the most enormous Silver Cross pram for me and my brother. It was so huge it used to block the entire pavement when she left it outside shops (with me and my brother in it - oh how things have changed ...).

Message withdrawn

yanbu ,my ds2 got a major elite ,and they always tutt and say ooh he looks big enough to walk etc ,hes god gdd/sn and cant walk very much ,i never get the bus after 9.30 as they all get the bus then as its free i go later in the morning ,, but one old lady offerd me her seat one ,some are ok .some are so rude and think they have a right to the bus,and they push in and they moan about the young ones

<ducks>

My point being: Is it relevant that the person is old ?

Is it not enough to merely say that they are rude ?

ABetaDad.

I would like to see you sitting on an anti social persons shopping!

"People like that"

If all she did was make a loud snide comment to herself then tbh why bother entering into a confrontation?
I agree with the bag thing though .... was this what you were in fact giving her the verbals over?