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I have an 18 Mo DD. She was 6 weeks premier and a reflux/policy baby, and her sleep was, and is, shocking - the longest stretch she's done since birth is 3 hrs, and I'm up usually every 2 hrs (good night) to 40 Mum (bad night) through the night. I've read and commented on some of the recent threads about sleep and that's not really what this is about, though obviously a major factor - for the record, we've tried and failed with sleep training and I'm still breastfeeding, a few times in the night and quite a lot during the day.
Birth was quite traumatic (when isn't it!) And I had 3rd degree tears, healed now though. DH was horrified by the whole thing. He works 12 hr shifts and has a long commute, usually works 10 days out of 14, so I do most of the childcare and housework. I was made redundant on mat leave so not at work yet. No near family help.
So here it is - we haven't had sex since DD was born. We're both exhausted and hardly see each other, I go to bed with DD at 7ish which is the only way I can function with the disturbed nights. I go between being too tired to care and being angry and resentful that a big part of our relationship has gone, terrified of what's going to happen to our marriage and not knowing how to change things. What I want to know is am I the only one going through something like this? AIBU about expectations post children - what is it really like for people? People have other babies, so once there is sex post children, but how do you find time/energy?! This sounds light-hearted but I'm actually bloody miserable and feel so stuck :-(
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Needtoknowanonymously · 23/11/2016 12:44
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