Hi all,
So long story short(ish). Me and DH have his two DC over for a 2 week school holiday. We also have my DS. They all get on well together and argue like true siblings... I enjoy the time they are all together an they are all good kids but I'm not ashamed to admit at the end of it I'm a bit frazzled and worn out as for so long it's just been me and DS.
Anyway, DH has decided he also wants to have his niece and nephew to stay for the break. So now it's 5 kids. I understand many families have this anyway and I might sound unreasonable but honestly I'm just not used to having so many kids in the house ! One of the 5 is quite challenging behaviour wise, and 2 of them speak no English so it's made more difficult by this. Try telling a child off with a combination of arm waves and stern faces, believe me it doesn't get you far!
DH has a pretty full on job which means he will be out most of the day while I look after them. And I've just found out that we are meant to be going on a day trip Saturday, however he has been called into work so it will be me, just me, dealing with all 5 of them. I just feel so anxious about this but when I raise it to DH he really doesn't see the issue, thinks I'm being silly. He's used to a big family and loves family time. I love family time too but arghghghghhh.
Even the fact that I only have a set of 6 crockery and cutlery is making me anxious!
So, if you got this far. Am I being unreasonable saying I would rather the niece and nephew didn't come?
Thanks
P.s. Bravo to the mums/dads who manage to deal with 5 or more kids on a daily basis. My hat goes off to you!
AIBU?
To no want to look after 5 kids ?
chowchowchow · 25/10/2016 14:00
So DH is at work during the week and also Saturday? 
He thinks you're being silly? He can do it, then.
Thanks everyone, I think I knew I wasn't really BU but it's good to hear it from others too.
As for him taking time off unfortunately with his work he can't choose when he gets time off so the arrangement is that we have his DC during their school hols otherwise we would never see them. As I said I really don't mind having his two with my one, it's just the extra two that was making me .
He has tomorrow off instead of Saturday so we will make the most of that and I think I'm going to put my foot down about the other two.
sorry but what a wanker your DH is.
He wants all the nostalgic "big family fun" without putting the work in himself! Ha, wouldn't we all?!
Of course he does not see the problem, as there IS no problem...for him.
He probably comes home and is jovial good fun with them for 30 minutes, feels he has done his bit, and leaves you with the boring logistics such as getting them bathed/fed/ in bed
About the day out: just say you can't cope with that on your own so if he can't come, it's off.
You sound too nice and too gentle a sort of person to make this clear to your H, maybe? That's the hard thing, and I do sympathise. I battle with DH daily for him to LISTEN to me (and I am not as nice as you 
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