Maybe I am. I don't know.
My Dad died, 3 weeks ago. He had been ill with cancer since January; and before that, many heart problems which landed him in hospital since a year ago Christmas. The funeral was on Thursday just gone.
I have 4 brothers and one sister. Three of those brothers never visited Dad in the past 18 months. My sister visited about once a month; the other brother (brother number 2) once every few weeks, but stayed for a couple of days each time.
The lack of visits from two of the brothers didn't bother me so much (numbers 1 and 3)(one lives in Oz; the other has had no contact with Dad for many years and is a violent and unpleasant person.) But brother number 4- he lives an hour's drive away, has no children, owns a brand new car- and never visited. He also has a wife, who, tbh, we've all tried to like but really never taken to.
Now, of course, the vultures are circling. They're all putting in their dibs for Dad's stuff. Obviously, that's one part of what is making me angry.
What's really making me fume is my sister-in-law.
We are unable to email brother no. 4 without her seeing the email. She reads and replies to group emails concerning Dad. They share a mobile phone, so she reads texts. She doesn't work, so is always at home when we ring him.
She keeps proffering unwanted and unasked-for 'advice' on dealing with the estate (I and brother number 2 are the executors). And now brother number 4 is saying that both of them will come and help clear out Dad's flat.
I don't bloody want her there, picking through my Dad's things. I don't want her poking her nose in where it's not wanted. If she had had any kind of relationship with my Dad, it would be different. If she had had any kind of relationship with the rest of us, it would be different.
But she hasn't. She's made it quite clear that she dislikes us as a family.
I know I'm grieving- I had a much closer relationship with Dad than anyone else, partly because I visited him far more often- and emotions always run high at times like these. But I can't stop being angry with the pair of them.
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Shodan · 17/10/2016 23:56
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