My dd turned 11 yesterday and so it's time to apply for her secondary school. She currently attends a brilliant CofE primary school around three miles away and this school feeds into an equally brilliant secondary school that is around the same distance but a little closer to home. I decided to opt for a primary further away as most of the schools in our area weren't good enough, and as she was baptised we had the option to choose other schools.
From her starting at primary i knew she'd probably end up going to the feeder secondary and as it turns out my daughter is adamant she wants to go and she will move up with the majority of her year. My problem is I've had a few people question me (rather intently) about our choice and why I would want my dd going to a school further out when there's a perfectly good secondary school on our doorstep.
Well yesterday I had a friend come over who's got a dd the same age as mine so she'll be moving to secondary as well. We got to chatting and she got on to the subject of choosing schools and well she grilled me! I told her that we wanted our dd to go to the CofE school as we felt it was better fit for her. I didn't go into too much detail at first but she carried on asking questions ie why the school down the road isn't good enough for my dd, what's wrong with the school, why don't I want my dd to have local friends etc. She got rather arsey with me actually and she just couldn't accept what I was saying.
You see I'm a sahm at the moment and if my dd wants a lift to school it won't be a problem as I'll be dropping her db off at primary anyway and both schools are two minutes apart. If she wants to get the bus home with friends, which she probably will do as a lot of kids round here go to the school (even though it's three miles out we are in one of the parishes) then that's no problem either as there's a direct bus route.
The secondary school down the road just isn't good enough. It has a horrible feel to it (I've visited twice) has shocking exam results and ofsted reports and in general has a bad reputation. My friend just couldn't understand why I would chose not to send my dd there but it's very obvious why. She doesn't feel it's fair my dd gets slightly more choices of school just because she's baptised but that's not my problem, I don't make the rules after all. I don't know what her problem is really as she's already said she's chosen the local school because she can't be bothered to get up early and drive her dd to school, but that doesn't bother me, and yes I know I'm a sahm but my dd is capable of getting the bus if I go back to work. My friend in my opinion is going for the easiest option and what is best for her, and that's fine, just admit it, and don't have a go at me for choosing differently.
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Loumar82 · 04/09/2016 16:38
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