So I am the youngest of three sisters and there is a bit of an age gap between me and then. They all still live in the village we grew up in and I've moved away to a large city c30 miles away. It's my husbands 40th and my dads 70th within days of each other next month. I mentioned to both my mum and middles sister that I wanted to do something for DH birthday. We've had a horrid time of it of late - our little one has been constantly unwell since last year, holiday disaster and one of his bf wife has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. He has said he didn't feel like celebrating so I thought I would organise something low key. I asked my inlaws if we could host. Surprise BBQ at theirs - they have a fab big garden. I asked both my middle sister and mum what the plan was for Dads bd and was told nothing as there has been a lot on of late. My eldest sister has just sent out a group message on FB to my extended family saying party at hers on same day I'm organising DH BBQ!! She will have discussed this with my mum and Other sister but clearly ignoring any plans I have!! I'm so mad!! It always has to be done their way and I'm just expected to go along with it! So angry! I just messaged the whole group on FB saying
Sorry we won't make it either. DH is doing total warrior to celebrate his 40th and we are hoping to have a (surprise) bday bbq later on that day! Middle sister messaged me straight away saying are you having something for DH and I said yes I told you and mum I was looking into it as you said nothing big planned for my dads and she said you said you were thinking about organising. Obviously you didn't mention it to biggest sister and she has just thought about organising something for dad?
So rather than ask me she just goes ahead and organised something!! I am just lost for words with my family right now!! Am I being to sensitive to it all?? Please I need an outsiders opinion!!
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Pgrant1981 · 15/08/2016 08:53
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