DH cleaning the loo brush in the bath... Who is BU?

[MouseholeCat]

So I am probably BU to have a loo brush in the first place especially as its presence has just resulted in a disagreement. Nonetheless, I'll proceed...

For context, we divide chores 50:50, although DH is happier to live amongst dirt than I am so I tend to need to coax him. I clean the bathroom weekly on a Sat or Sun, doing wipe downs when needed in the week. We've got a general rule whereby, if you create an unreasonable or gross mess, you clean it up yourself even if it's made in the other's domain.

This AM, DH went to the loo- I could hear him inside faffing around a bit, and then he emerged and stated that "we need to unblock the drains". It turns out he's had used too much loo roll, the loo has clogged and he can't shift it using the loo brush. I direct him to some caustic soda, tell him how to use it, and the loo gets unblocked.

Afterwards, the bathroom door is open and I hear him rinsing something off using the shower head in the bath. I ask him what he's up to and it turns out he's cleaning the loo brush in the bath using the shower head and rinsing it all down the plug hole. No disinfecting agent was applied. He finishes, puts loo brush back in its holder, and turns to leave the bathroom.

I am pretty disgusted by this. He wasn't going to tell me what he was up to, meaning I could be using the shower not knowing there was, essentially, shit in it. I ask him if he can clean the shower now as it's really gross, he objects on the basis that I clean it on Saturday anyway, it's no different to cleaning your bum, and I'm unnecessarily worried about the germs.

He questioned how else would he clean the loo brush. I answered that I generally give it a shake off in the loo water and that does it. If that didn't shift it, I'd chuck it out and buy a new one.

I'm now second guessing myself- am I really being too precious about the germy status of the bath? What is the reasonable way to clean a loo brush? Who is really being unreasonable?

[mrsfuzzy]

one word - gross.

[StarOnTheTree]

YANBU That is grim

[limitedperiodonly]

Yes

[MouseholeCat]

I think I just need to get rid of the loo brush so this never happens again...

[woodhill]

Yuck, yanbu

[mrsfuzzy]

what is wrong with flushing the brush with clean water ,squirting dettol or the like over the brush over the loo pan and then flushing, lus rinsing it in clean water. bit of faff but it's far better than dh's idea. i don't like loo brushes admittedly because of potential mess. if our loo blocks i chuck half a bucket of water down and flush at the same time, usually works o.k. lovely subject for a relaxing sat morning

[mrsfuzzy]

op try toilet duck cleaning pads, use once and flush, more hygienic than a grim brush, dettol pad end of handle and your'e sorted.

[WatcherOfTheNight]

[ScarletForYa]

😱

I would kill him. Everywhere contaminated!

The horror. If he thinks that's ok what else had he been doing?

😱 😱 😱

[MouseholeCat]

mrsfuzzy- that's a very logical suggestion. Given that DH had a bloody jug by him (used for pouring the caustic soda mix down the loo, it would have been very easy to do). I'll suggest that for the future...

I'm no clean freak, but his nonchalant approach to basic hygiene is shocking at times!

[Coulddowithanap]

I also can't see a problem as long as the bath is cleaned afterwards.

[KayTree87]

That is disgusting. YANBU.

[MouseholeCat]

AnUtterIdiot- he was using the cold tap only...

sobs in corner at the thought of what else is going on in this house

[coconutpie]

OMG that is totally gross. HE, not you, has to clean the bath. Ugh minging.

[Oysterbabe]

That is disgusting.

[DereksGotATail]

It's not nuclear waste. I really don't see a problem. Clean the bath and get on with life.

[mrsfuzzy]

could i think it's the thought of it that is making someone us feel ugh. the sheer nature of a toilet means that mass should be flushed away quickly in a confined area [lid down] to keep germs contained, there isn't going to be the same amount of contamination in a bath, plus water spray in the air spreads the bacteria onto every surface including tooth brushes etc, now that is really gross. god i've just realised that 'i've got too much of an invested interest in this thread i need a .

[DesignedForLife]

That's grim.

[GoblinLittleOwl]

Presumably you wash your bottom in the bath and under the shower?

[MouseholeCat]

Yeh... it's the thought of the splatter that gets me I think.