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Me and DP been together 2 years. He has four children whom I adore, we live together, moving to a bigger house in the next few weeks and are building a happy, fun life together. We love each other very very much and talk about marriage regularly.
We would love to get married but he is still currently married to his ExW -Divorce proceedings are starting now, amicably from both of them. All good.
It was my birthday on Friday.
He asked me months ago what I wanted and I had been dropping rather large hints for an eternity ring. (I know, I know) I sent him links to some (Just from Argos, none were more than a tenner because we are skint at the moment with the housemove and I'm a cheap cow )
At first he didn't respond to my messages about it, and when I casually bought it up he said he 'didn't really get it'
I explained that it would mean a lot to me and said that I thought it would be a nice way of showing that, whilst we can't get married at the moment, we are committed to each other.
He was on his phone one evening and said he was looking at the rings, I even told him my ring size. He works round the corner form Argos. So was very much expecting it.
My birthday comes and no ring :(
He didn't say why and I didn't mention it. He got me some makeup I had sent him the link for, which was lovely.
I just feel hurt. I think if I hadn't made it so clear how much it would mean to me I wouldn't be so bothered, but there's no way he couldn't have known.
I casually mentioned if he had thought about getting a ring and he said he hadn't thought about it but it would be nicer for us to get it together.
I don't really see that, I think it means more to go out of your way to do something as a gift. And this was only said after I bought it up, so not sure that was the plan anyway, I think he just couldn't be bothered :(
I am PG at the moment so might be hormones, but I really don't know.
I think it's made worse because I was convinced he would have remembered, I made it pretty obvious. :)
I am torn between speaking to him about how much it would mean to me but sounding like a brat.
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