I'm currently 4 months pregnant with DC2. I have a 3yo DD. After a bit of birth trauma we had a bit of a shaky start. Looking back I suspect I had very mild undiagnosed PND. I was very indifferent to DD for a long time and didn't enjoy being a mum til she was maybe about 2. I have learnt a lot of lessons and overcome a few demons too.
Anyhow, she has just turned 3 and what a difference in our relationship - I love her so much I could tear down the moon and give it to her if she wanted. She makes me so elated and proud every day, I adore every part of her. I'm probably very lucky as she is a 'good' child for the most part and we have very little hassle with her. She is kind and funny and smart and just a pure joy to be around. I'm sure everyone feels like this about their kids but I never ever thought I'd feel this way.
Now in pregnant I keep thinking "how will I love this baby like I love DD". Aside from worries about having a repeat experience with this one, I just don't see how they could measure up to her - I'm v worried that I won't see them in the same way I see her, and that this will show.
Is this normal? I don't have many friends who have more than 1 to turn to, and even so I have never even told DH about my feelings about DD in the early days and my internal struggles, they're words I darent utter out loud. It's not that he's not supportive, it's that I'm scared to have that conversation myself, especially when I've moved on so greatly, I don't like taking over old ground
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To worry I won't love DC2 as much as I love DD1?
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PinkyofPie · 25/07/2016 12:05
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