Venting here as don't really want to discuss in RL in case it gets back to the parents as children attend a small school.
So my elder daughter had a play date. 6 going on 7. From the moment of pick up the child was rude to all of us. One word answers from the minute she got out of school and lots of I don't like that drink, I don't like that food, I don't want to play that game, I'm bored, etc, all said in very rude, dismissive tones that we don't tolerate in our house. No pleases and thank yous which I confess I automatically corrected as that's not how we work here. Visit culminated in the two older ones conspiring to break a toy of my younger one. Deliberately - visitor said my daughter did it and my daughter said visitor told her to. My daughter has never done anything like this before and we had a good old chat (for chat read a bollocking followed by a chat) about how we behave to others, how not to be pushed into misbehaviour etc. My daughter is no saint but I did not like how this girl changed our family dynamic and turned my now rather confident daughter someone who panders and simpers around this girl, who clearly wore the trousers and was, quite frankly, an absolute pain in the arse all afternoon. I didn't like how that bad behaviour was rewarded by my daughter trying to please her instead of telling her to fuck off (in a six year old non sweary way)
I know it's end of term and they are all tired but that doesn't excuse extraordinarily bad manners.We've only had one other play date with this child and it was over a year ago. It went similarly though not as bad and no ganging up on younger one then.
AIBU to want to discourage this friendship? It's so unbalanced, I don't think the girl chooses to play with my daughter much at school and it's bloody awful to think she's being spoken to so rudely and bossily by someone she says she likes. And more practically, is there anything I can I help her to deal with this sort of thing, other than sit back and let her learn herself that some people are just fucking rude?
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Rude child on play date - AIBU to be so pissed off about it
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inlovewithhubby · 22/07/2016 10:16
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