My Sil lives abroad , Not too far only 40 mins on flight. she has lived there for about 8 years and i have visited maybe 5 times (only once with my children). She is home about 3 times a year for over a week at a time so see her a lot.
She cant come home this summer and mil is putting pressure on me to visit. Dp has started new job so cant take any time off but i have 2.5 weeks off soon. Sil has only been home for two weeks about 6 weeks ago and it was full on because they were staying in our house (5 kids combined ). I havent had time off since xmas so was looking forward to having the time off with the dc's and said i might just head away down the country for a couple of days with my mum. Mil is seriously putting pressure on me though. started off by saying every couple of days how upset sil is that she cant come home this year and would i not go over for a few days.
I am a nervous flyer ad wouldnt fly with kids on my own so it would involve a ferry trip and 4 hours on train with three young kids! mil said again today would i really not consider visiting as i have so much time off work. She has offered to take my kids (which is a really generous offer i know) if i go alone. I just feel manipulated into it all.
Am I being really selfish? I just feel like we see so much of them during the year, i dont really want to spend my time off visiting them when i could be at home with the kids.
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Threeboysandus · 18/07/2016 22:21
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