Hello, I'm wondering what other people think of the situation I fond myself in now. I was with my wife for five years and married for four before she left earlier this year. There were alot of issues in our relationship that I tried to fix but she just went out with her friends on nights out constantly.
We have two young children, eldest daughter is nearly four and her younger brother is 2 1/2. Hes had alot of medical problems from birth, spent a lot of time in and out of hospital, and required alot of medical help even at home that I became responsible for as she couldn't face handling it. He's mostly healthy now, just a few lingering issues, but because I have always dealt with his care he bonded with me more then his mum.
I have been unable to work for two years due to a chronic pain condition but became the kids main carer for a long time due to their mum stepping back, not really sure why.
Anyway towards the end of April she said that she was going to go and stay with friends for a few weeks as a trail separation. During that time we texted and called as normal and nothing seemed amiss and I thought she would come back but on mothers day I pressed her for an answer if she was coming back and she admitted that she wasn't, we were over and then warned me that she might end up in a relationship with a guy she meet on her many nights out, but she didn't have feelings for him. Even longer story cut short, within two weeks she was with him and living in a bedsit that social services had declares unfit for kids to be in for any time. So she came to the house to see the kids, rare as that was, until hee house was cleared for kids, done in the last few weeks nd the kids have been there twice.
However now her boyfriend is moving in with her and she wants the kids to meet him and his two year old, who he has every other weekend, and be a happy little step family.
I've said that the kids aren't to meet him yet as even though she's sure he's now the one for her it's still too soon after she left to introduce him to the kids. She hasn't seen them a massive amount and they are still adjusting.
She says I'm being spiteful because she's with someone else and she can now only have the kids for a few hours at a time as he works til two most days and so will be in the house after that.
I just want the kids to have their mum's full attention when they see her and have made clear that I'm not saying he can never meet them, just not yet.
Sorry for the post getting out of hand and long but I don't have anyone I can really ask this too as my day's are taken up completely by the kids so don't speak to grown ups alot
AIBU?
Making her wait before introducing her new boyfriend
ChronicPainDaddy · 08/07/2016 10:14
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