To not want to share every single thing...

(66 Posts)
Uncoping Wed 20-Apr-16 17:46:02

With my 2 year old hellraiser.

My water, my makeup, my pasta, my (occasional) wine, my shoes.

She wants EVERYTHING!

Sitting eating some much looked forward to pasta and I've had to hand over half the bowl even though she's just eaten a full kids cottage pie & 2 bananas hmm

ParanoidGynodroid Wed 20-Apr-16 17:48:44

It only gets worse, Uncoping.
I went into DD(18)'s bedroom to open the curtains today, and with just a quick glance noticed my hair drier, moisturiser, some make up, 3 of my tops and my favourite mug!

Uncoping Wed 20-Apr-16 17:52:01

It's payback for all the years of stealing my mums clothes/shoes/makeup!!

I need pre-emptive measures!!!

Herewegoagainfolks Wed 20-Apr-16 17:55:09

You don't have to though - you can say 'no'.

A few bits of pasta is fine but why 'half the bowl'? Why not just feed her at the same time as you if this is a recurring problem.

NeedACleverNN Wed 20-Apr-16 17:58:32

I will never forget the time when Dd was about 15 months.

She saw dh eating some pizza and began to whinge. So dh handed her the crust.

She threw the crust at him and began to scream. So he tried to give her a slice to see what would happen.

She shut up and ate the lot grin

Since that day dh has never had pizza to himself again.

Claraoswald36 Wed 20-Apr-16 17:58:59

Just say 'no, mummy's'

MrsJayy Wed 20-Apr-16 17:59:09

Give her the same dinner and say no

AdoraBell Wed 20-Apr-16 18:00:11

You need to plan to share, some things. Pasta, make extra because she'll probably want it regardless of the feast she's just finished, wine tell her - no this is just for mummy and daddy type people.

Oh, and they eyeliner, if it's not securely under lock and key, at ceiling height in a room with no scaleable surfaces, she'll end up drawing on the walls with it <bitter experience with a bright red lipstick>

You have been warned.

NatashaRomanov Wed 20-Apr-16 18:01:08

She's 2?
Say no.
Ignore the tantrum. She'll eventually learn.

gingercat02 Wed 20-Apr-16 18:02:50

Why do you get so much looked forward to pasta and she gets kids cottage pie. I can see her point envy
I hope sharing your wine was a joke [lighthearted]

70isaLimitNotaTarget Wed 20-Apr-16 18:04:38

Most of my silver earrings and some of my shampoo has made it's way through to DDs room.

And she ended up somehow convincing DH and I to give her our bed. She said she fell out of the single. We upgraded the double for a KS.

The double (now in DDs room) is more solid with an end unlike the KS. [sigh]

Half a bowl of pasta is getting off light <<bitter>>

MrsJayy Wed 20-Apr-16 18:14:08

How is she with chairs 70s does she need a whole couch just in case she falls off grin

70isaLimitNotaTarget Wed 20-Apr-16 18:19:16

Oh yes, MrsJayy the whole couch. And she's taller than me shock
She's eyeing up my wardrobe too (3 door, hers is 2 door).
I gave her a rail in the junk room as an overflow.

See my forehead..........? There's a huge thumbprint on it. wink

PeppaIsMyHero Wed 20-Apr-16 18:20:33

God, I remember this. Definitely say no. They do learn, and it makes it really special when you offer something to them.

It's important to nip the sense of entitlement in the bud.

NeedACleverNN Wed 20-Apr-16 18:21:15

See my forehead..........? There's a huge thumbprint on it.

I think I can see that from here grin

That's ok though as Dd has dh wrapped round her pinky and she's only 3

MrsJayy Wed 20-Apr-16 18:22:30

<squints> oh so there is 70s

IcingandSlicing Wed 20-Apr-16 18:33:16

You don't have to share everything, no matter how much she wants it.
Just put biyndaries and say no.
What's the worse case scenario? A tantrum? Well get out of the room (provided she's safe) and see how fast the tantrum will stop.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties Wed 20-Apr-16 18:40:30

You could work this to your advantage.
Settle down with a lovely bowl of sliced vegetables for yourself and watch her tuck in! Or apply sunscreen to yourself on holiday and she'll definitely want it all over her.
Stay one step ahead wink

trowelmonkey1 Wed 20-Apr-16 18:54:31

DS is 2 and exactly the same. Nothing is sacred. We give him exactly the same food as us, but he will still want to eat off our plates. Agree with previous posters: say "no, mummy's food/drink etc" and let them have a tantrum if it's really bothering you. We do this with DS and he's (slowly) learning that not everything is his and sometimes mummy doesn't want/have to share her dinner.

Cat2014 Wed 20-Apr-16 18:57:06

I would always share dinner with ds. Why wouldn't I? I'd also share with friends or family if they wanted. Wine - that different!

Standingonmytippytoes Wed 20-Apr-16 18:59:06

All my eyeliner and lipsticks have been used on the walls in my house by the sneaky 3 year old that shit is hard to get off when it dries.

Uncoping Wed 20-Apr-16 19:19:48

This post was pretty lighthearted, I wasn't actually annoyed at my DD smile

I can't resist her eyes! We often eat dinner at the same time but tonight I was having pasta that I know she doesn't like so I gave her here first and by the time mine had finished cooking she had finished her dinner!

Of course, tonight was the night she decided actually she does like the pasta! I can't resist her begging eyes, I am weak! grin

FlyingElbows Wed 20-Apr-16 19:24:26

Learn to resist her eyes. It will be considerably less cute when she's 16.

MrsJayy Wed 20-Apr-16 19:38:02

Try nicking her dinner see how she likes it

Totesgawjushun69 Wed 20-Apr-16 19:47:38

Isn't falling for kids eyes a 'thing'? I'm sure I saw some documentary about cute baby faces/ eyes making you want to look out for them being a survival thing.

I'm often pissed so could be wrong...

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