DP and I have been together for just over 2 years. All is going well and we are very happy. We're both in our 40's and DP owns and lives in his house about 40 minutes away. I'm currently renting with my 2 dc's (6 and 9) in the village where they have lived all their lives. I have equity from the marital home ready for when I come to buy another house.
DP and I have started to discuss buying a house and moving in together. We would be putting similar amounts of equity in and my income is slightly higher than his (not massively so).
I would like to stay buy in the area where I live now. My dc's are settled in school here and have friends/activities etc here. Their dad also lives here and he we currently share access about 60:40 (I.e he takes and collects them from school 2 morning and afternoons per week). My workplace is also a short commute which enables me to get back in time to collect them from after school club on the 3 nights I have them.
DP has lived in his area all his life. He has friends there but no children. His work is about a 20 minute commute from his house and about a 30 minute commute from mine.
I want to stay here - the dc's are settled and their dad can be more hands on than he would be if we moved away. DP doesn't necessarily want us to move to where he lives now but he dies think we should compromise and move to somewhere new for all of us (geographically about half way between where we both live now). I really don't see the point in uprooting the dc's to go to somewhere where none of us have any particularly connections.
So, AIBU to think that it would make more sense for us to buy a property in my village..?
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To think DP should leave his home town and live in mine
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Tillyscoutsmum · 11/04/2016 17:15
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