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I cheated on my husband!

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MooPointCowsOpinion · 03/04/2016 10:16

... In my dream last night. I even remember thinking "Mr MooPoint will not like this!"

I don't remember the specifics of the cheat but I felt very guilty upon waking up. I hardly have time for my own husband so I don't know how I could manage a bit on the side, I assume in my dream universe I have a different job that's not 60 hours a week and my one year old is much older and sleeps through the night...!

I'm either completely bonkers for feeling guilty or there's some deep psychological problem that my subconscious is trying to tell me about.

Have you ever dream cheated? Did you confess?

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EatShitDerek · 03/04/2016 10:19

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2plus1plusL1 · 03/04/2016 10:20

I dreamed that I had a threesome the other night - I haven't mentioned it. No particular reason other than my husband will ask lots of interested questions!

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TimeToMuskUp · 03/04/2016 10:20

Lots of times. With some of the oddest people, too. I sometimes tell Mr MuskUp, he laughs and tells me I'm mad. I doubt it means much in terms of wanting to actual cheat, perhaps it's that you need more attention (subconsciously).

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rainbowstardrops · 03/04/2016 10:20

Yes I suppose so but although I'm married, my dreams are about me being with someone else but it doesn't feel as if I'm cheating but just with someone else Grin My 'new' man is usually lovely and caring and romantic - the opposite of DH!

I often have dreams of DH cheating on me though. I tell him he's a bastard in the morning. He has no idea what I'm on about Grin

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MsVestibule · 03/04/2016 10:20

You have no control over your subconscious! I do this occasionally and when I remember, I'll tell DH in a 'you'll never believe who I had sex with last night!' type way.

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Thefitfatty · 03/04/2016 10:21

Captain America and I get it on quite frequently in my dreams. DH and I attribute this to the fact that I'm a comic book geek and Chris Evans is a hot. We really don't look at it anymore deeply then that.

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VoldysGoneMouldy · 03/04/2016 10:21

You can't help what you dream about. I tell DH whenever I 'dream cheat', and we have a laugh about it. I was on a dream date with Sean Bean - who was cross dressing at the time - a few nights ago. DH thought it was hilarious.

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Yankeetarts · 03/04/2016 10:27

I had an affair with Kevin simm of the voice last night,do I feel guilty no it was a dream nothing more

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MooPointCowsOpinion · 03/04/2016 10:28

Oooh TheFitFatty Captain America would have been nice.

It was a mobile phone salesman from EE, probably too young for me, how embarrassing.

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Lariflete · 03/04/2016 10:29

I left DH one night in a dream for Rob Beckett. Even at the time I was like WTF am I leaving my gorgeous,caring husband for a man I feel no attraction to?!? Blush

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Thefitfatty · 03/04/2016 10:29

Was he at least good at it MooPoint? If so, probably worth the dream.

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MooPointCowsOpinion · 03/04/2016 10:33

I don't even remember the actual deed, just the chat up before hand which was pretty good. Not often I get chatted up, DH just winks and dives in for a grope, all romance now being dead or disguised as a 'back rub'.

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Bluebolt · 03/04/2016 10:35

In my dreams I'm a decade younger, a foot taller, two stone lighter, have better hair and a lot more interesting. So I don't class it as cheating and it is generally someone off the TV.

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MooPointCowsOpinion · 03/04/2016 10:37

Larifleet oh lord I just googled Rob Beckett and snorted my coffee!

The first picture that comes up is not flattering, poor lad. He's a younger paler Donald Trump lookalike.

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MooPointCowsOpinion · 03/04/2016 10:38

Voldysgonemouldy Sean Bean does look the type to fancy a pair of heels...

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Arkhamasylum · 03/04/2016 10:42

I've had dreams where I've told the other person that I can't have sex with them because I'm married.

I hate dream me :-(

In the nicest way, you are completely bonkers for feeling guilty. Grin

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Lariflete · 03/04/2016 10:44

Moo Yes I know. I feel traumatised by the whole dream experience!

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GissASquizz · 03/04/2016 10:46

I regularly dream cheat on dh with my GP. Who wears socks and sandals in the summer and sort of glides about at high speed. Dream me is messed up.

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RickJames · 03/04/2016 10:50

I'm awful in my dreams - but who can blame me? Dream me is clearly so attractive and irresistible! I always feel so rotten about it that things never go too far and I explain to Eric Bana or whoever it is that I'm married and that we must stop.
I wouldn't read too much into it - it's just your brain running it's processes :-)

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thelastwingedthing · 03/04/2016 10:55

A while back I fell in love in a dream. I have no idea who he was but the lovely glowy feeling followed me around for days. I miss that feeling.

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FirstWeTakeManhattan · 03/04/2016 10:55

My passionate encounters usually invoke the local priest.

That's messed up.

Too much Thornbirds as a young teenager.

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BoatyMcBoat · 03/04/2016 10:59

I once dreamt that I shagged Phil Mitchell from East Enders. Well, technically it was a nightmare. I felt ill at the very thought of it! PM was the reason I stopped watching EE - "why am I willingly having people like this behaving like that in my own home? I asked myself, as I switched off.

I know what the dream meant, now.

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AtAt · 03/04/2016 11:00

I woke a bit flustered the other morning, so dh asked if I was OK. He laughed when I explained I'd just woken from a bit of a naughty dream that featured Tom Hiddleston as Iron Man Blush

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AliceThrewTheFookingGlass · 03/04/2016 11:00

I dream cheated almost every night when I was pregnant with my first. Dream me wasn't fussy and I had new person in every dream. I did tell DP some of them, like the one about holly Willoughby (I am straight) but I kept most of them to myself.

I had a dream about Jason mamoa recently. I woke up in a right tizz and ever so slightly turned on. I felt very guilty about that, which is silly really as I can't help who I dream about. I didn't tell DP. I told him I had a sex dream about him instead Blush

I find sex dreams very odd. They make me feel weird for most of the day.

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Tywinlannister · 03/04/2016 11:12

It's easy to say don't feel guilty but sometimes dreams are so hard to shake!

I had a dream that DP had cheated on me with a woman (who is very nice and I really like!) from his work. I was pissed off with him all day. That's unreasonable! Blush

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