This will be long so I apologise in advance....
DD is 11 and in year 6. She has had a bit of a rough ride during the past few years at school and struggled with friendships. She is often treated like a bit of a scapegoat and seems to get a lot of children being horrible to her, as she is a gentle soul and quite shy and quiet.
In year 3 she was friends with Friend A, who basically bullied her throughout the school year, and made others not talk to her. Friend A regularly hit/kicked/pulled DD's hair and was unpleasant to her. Towards the end of the year A refused to speak to DD anymore and ditched her as a friend.
Year 4 was ok but then in year 5 she became friends with Friend B, who again treated her pretty shabbily and much the same way as friend A had done, and it just went on all year with DD being upset and not wanting to go to school because B was basically bullying her.
Now she is year 6 and is friends with Friend C, plus a group of other girls. Friend C lives next door to Friend A, and the mums are friends too. All has been fine until recently when Friend C started ignoring DD and excluding her from things, and making the other girls in DD's friendship group ignore her too. On the last day of term, Friend C brought in her party invitations and invited every single one of the other girls from their group but excluded DD and was really nasty to her all day and laughing at her as she wasn't invited.
One of the other girls sent DD a text yesterday morning saying that Friend C had started up a group online chat called 'Friend C's Party' and added everyone attending the party. This friend also sent DD several screenshots (which I know in itself was a shitty thing to do too), of Friend C bitching about DD and saying the reason that DD isn't invited to her party is because C's mum hates DD as she 'doesn't get on with anyone', and then quoted the examples of Friend A, Friend B and the friendship problem this year, and lots of other stuff saying that her mum thinks as a family we are common, and weird, and all kinds of other insults.
DD was really upset and actually I am pretty upset too. I've always chatted to C's mum as the girls have known each other since nursery and thought I got on ok with her. It might be that C is inventing it all but it just seems a bit much for a child to have invented, I don't know.
What would you do now? DH says I should send a text to C's mum and forward on the screenshots so she can find out how nasty her DD is being (Her DD is the type who everyone thinks is sweet and cute and never unkind), and also to let her know that I am aware of what she has said, if she said it, and then blank her forever more. I have to admit I am tempted to blank her for excluding DD from the party alone as I would never let my DCs just exclude one child from their group.
What would you do?
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LovelyLadyLoxley · 30/03/2016 20:08
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