Another wedding/hen do one I'm afraid!
I've been reading loads of Mumsnet threads about weddings so I may be over-thinking this.
My friends are spread out all over the country, as I'm sure many people's are. I'm getting married in mine and H2B's home city in the summer, so most people have parents they can stay with or don't live too far away themselves. It's a small do, on a Saturday, everyone coming to every part of the day as lots of people will be travelling.
I always wanted a night out in my home city for my hen, nothing fancy, seeing as I've got so many memories there and it's also a really good city to go out in! However with everyone being so spread out I wasn't sure I'd even have a hen do.
However unanimously my friends were keen for a hen. One friend, let's call her Emma, was constantly emailing ideas about European destinations! In the end I said I'd just like a fairly central UK hen do that people can hop on the train or drive to, but please no one be obligated to come.
My cousin, let's call her Louise, offered to organise the whole thing! I actually said we'd do it together but she said that's no fun! I chose my home city as a base as then a lot of the guests have the option of staying with their parents. Louise has sorted accommodation for whoever would like it.
I've heard (through spies!) that the cost of the whole hen is £130 for 2 nights and I think a couple of meals although don't know the details. I obviously contacted Louise and offered to transfer my share but she said they'd all agreed to cover it which is amazing!
Now I've heard that Emma is saying it's too expensive and she can't afford it and it's ridiculous she is expected to. I understand if she can't afford it but why all the suggestions for going abroad? And also her parents live in the city we are going to so she could stay with them.
Feel a bit guilty I haven't paid so wondering if I should insist or if I should pay for some aspect of the hen so it's cheaper?
Also feeling sad that close friends feel so obligated despite knowing me really well and knowing that I understand and can't wait to see them at the wedding instead.
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Should I insist on paying? (another hen do one!)
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singme · 28/03/2016 10:28
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