Morning everyone, apologies if this causes any offence but AIBU to ask you how soon after an early miscarriage did you feel ready to TTC again?
I had my Mirena out at the end of January for TTC purposes and I was lucky enough to get my BFP on our first cycle of trying. Two weeks after my initial BFP (well, 10 BFPs over the course of about 4 days because I couldn't stop testing) I tested with a CB Digital and it unexpectedly said not pregnant so, upset and shocked, I went out to buy a FRER which also said not pregnant
I saw my GP the next day who confirmed the pregnancy had self terminated and she would expect me to miscarry within the next week. As it was I started miscarrying the following day - which was the Saturday just gone
I know it was early days, 5/6 weeks maybe, but I was still very upset as it had taken me about 8 months to get DH onboard about TTC and it was a very much wanted pregnancy. Anyway, the actual miscarriage lasted about 3-4 days and the bleeding has now stopped.
Last night I was talking to my DH and we were chatting about sex and I made a comment about how we'll have to be more careful now seeing as we aren't covered by any contraception to which he was quite surprised as he was under the assumption we were just going to start TTC again.
I told him that for some reason I didn't feel like I could as I couldn't cope with another miscarriage straight away (not that I know the likelihood of it happening again) and he said, "Well if it happens again on our next try then we'll stick to just having one child." (we have a DS who is almost two).
I told him that I didn't want to put an end to the journey of TTC2 and that even if I did have another miscarriage I would still want to carry on trying for DC2 but that I don't feel like I am ready to potentially face a second miscarriage straight away.
He was great about it, I suppose he just didn't really understand how much the whole thing had upset me.
When I had learnt about the end of the pregnancy he was abroad and he didn't get home until the day after the miscarriage had started so it was a very upsetting and horrible few days alone for me. I'd had to tell him what had happened over the phone and it was awful I think if he'd have been with me over those three days (the finding out it had ended and the onset of the miscarriage) and seen how much it had affected me then he'd understand more why I am apprehensive.
I suppose it's normal to feel anxious about it happening again though isn't it? But part of me thinks that if I put off trying again then I will just get more and more nervous about it and never make the leap.
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Writerwannabe83 · 11/03/2016 08:15
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