Bit of background; my SIL and PIL are lovely, kind people who would do anything for anyone. Genuinely lovely. However, my SIL tends to organise big outings/ events to coincide with mine.
For example, she booked her wedding dress shopping weekend for the day after I had my first DC (date known in advance due to CS) and understandably, MIL had to delay seeing DD until dress weekend was over.
SIL booked her housewarming for the day of my graduation so we were all rushing from one event to the next.
She's not a bad person and I do, genuinely think that she doesn't do this on purpose.
So, my current dilemma. We have been TTC our second DC for years, but haven't been successful. We recently shared that we're having IVF in the hope if conceiving number two. If the first shot is successful (good chance it won't be, to be fair) the baby would be born around the date of my DD's birthday. We've all been laughing about this a few weeks later, my SIL (who hasn't got married in the last 5 years despite having the dress ) has not booked her wedding to coincide with a date that either first IVF baby would be born or we'd possibly be going through more IVF. She's getting married abroad so we need to book ASAP.
So, AIBU to send my DH alone (my DD will stay at home with me due to the faff) as I can't guarantee I'll be able to go due to possible baby's birth, IVF or even a pregnancy. I can't book a holiday it's likely I'll be unable to attend, even if it is a wedding, can I.
I am fully aware that my SIL will be sad as she wanted me and my DD to be bridesmaids, but honestly, she can't expect me to go, can she?
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AIBU?
To send DH while I stay at home.
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Finallyonboard · 24/02/2016 12:30
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