I have been friends with this 'friend' for well over 10 years. We were very close, talking daily and meeting up often, she was almost as close as a sister. We both had 2 boys each of similar ages, so bonded over that also.
In 2013 I became pregnant with my 3rd child (a dd) unfortunately at that time the relationship with my then partner broke down, and he decided not to be in the baby's life. Later on during the pregnancy the baby was diagnosed with something the consultants thought at that time was life threatening, luckily it wasn't as bad as first thought, but my dd later needed an operation not long after her birth.
Once my dd was born my friend's attitude began to change quite dramatically. She was no longer as supportive as she previously had been, and began excluding me from 'exciting' events, such as music concerts etc. By the time my daughter came to have her operation my friend had gone completely no contact with me with no reason given. She then deleted me from all social media. We had had no arguments, no falling outs, nothing.
I was so hurt by this, because she had gone from being excited with me and visiting my dd, to not even asking after her during her operation. I still to this day do not know what caused her to be this way, but I always felt that there was an element of hidden jealousy that I had another baby, and that it was a girl.
One year later she made contact with me again, and tried to act as if nothing had happened, and even boasted about how well she was doing in work etc. I have been cordial since that time but I am still feeling hurt...
Now months on she has found herself pregnant after a one night stand. The father has chosen to walk away, so she is in a similar predicament to the one I was in. Not only that but she has recently found out the baby is a girl. She has been up and down given the circumstances, but is over the moon she is having a girl, however it has brought back lots of negative feelings for me...I want to support her, but I just can't forget how she treated me during my own time of need.
I know it all sounds a little schoolgirl-ish but would I be wrong now to make a permanent end to our friendship? I just don't know how we can continue on as if nothing happened.
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MissterBean · 17/02/2016 18:32
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