7mo DS2 has always been funny about bottle feeding, but I've now stopped bf so he's had to get used to it.
Other than for some short periods, he's been particularly funny about having a bottle from anyone other than me, to the point where he refuses and screams if anyone else tries to feed him or settle him for a nap.
Whilst DH is happy to help generally, and did his fair share of night feeds with (bottle-mad) DS1 (and, to be fair, always gets up with DS1 so I get a mini lie in if DS2 still asleep), he is reluctant to do a night shift with DS2 because he knows he would scream and wail. Which is true BUT the status quo is unsustainable as I am so knackered.
At nap time today I wanted to go out with DS1 and see if DH could feed and settle DS2 even though we knew he would be grumpy. I left the house against dh's will. He didn't feed but DH did take him for a walk to get him to sleep.
We've now fallen out because I am on my knees and nearly broken from not having a decent night's sleep since before he was born. I desperately need dh to do a night shift, at weekends like he did for ds1.
I also need to do some work KIT days and really want to be able to leave ds2 with dh or my parents to do some other things. In the spring he will be starting nursery. I think by leaving dh (or other person) and ds2 to it ds2 will eventually feed. DH thinks he's "too young" to not have his mummy and that this is not a good idea, despite not really having any other ideas to fix the issue.
Who ibu?
Should add that dh is generally very supportive and sympathetic, just doesn't feel we should let ds2 get upset unnecessarily. We had a similar disagreement regarding letting ds1 CIO, he eventually agreed to that but not until he was 2.
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Frazzled2207 · 16/01/2016 15:59
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