My DM - who is rather difficult at the best of times - is moving back to my home town from where she used to live. She's not in her new house until 2nd February. I assumed she'd stay with her dad (my grandad, obvs) - who also lives in hometown 2 miles from me -before she moves in to new place.
ME, DH and DD are moving house on Monday (yippee!). Mum was supposed to arrive the day we move, and I assumed she'd stay at Grandad's (and not ours) in the meantime for the following reasons -
- Our house will be bedlam for a little while what with the move
- We don't actually have a spare room
- Grandad does have a spare room with a comfy bed (mum has back problems, can't remember the word but this is a special back problem bed)
- I thought we'd enjoy our first bought home as a family without my mum having to live in the living room for 2 weeks and wanting to know our every move.
Today she has said she's actually coming back on Friday - 3 days before we move - and wants to stay with us. I told her it's really not convenient as everything will be boxed/packed/plastic stuff over it and there'd be nowhere for her to sleep. Even we're dismantling the bed and dining table on Saturday and will be sleeping on a mattress on the floor.
She doesn't want to stay at Grandad's at all before 2nd February. They get on very well but he fusses over her and she doesn't like it. Her reason for not staying is "What would I want to live with my parent for 2 weeks for?!".
I've told her she can't stay at ours on Friday as with a toddler and a boxed up house it's just not fit for having a guest. She's in a sulk and is saying if I don't let her stay, and don't let her stay for the 2 weeks in our new house, she's going to a B&B which will "drain her of all her money".
AIBU or is she?