Last year (2014) my cousin died aged 24 from a heart attack. She was very disabled and required 24hour care, but I she was my best friend. I spoke to her weekly via Skype and wed share photos/videos on Facebook, I visited as often as I could (she lived 200 miles from me) and was constantly asking my granddad how she was doing after he'd spoken to her. I was incredibly upset when she died.
I feel incredibly admiration for my aunt, my cousin was the second child she lost as I found out a few years ago she lost a baby boy at 6months old in the 80s (2-3 years before I was born). She also has a severely autistic son and has managed to hold herself together for him. She cries when she talks about her children, understandably and I have tried to listen. I've visited a few times, but always felt unneeded/unwanted as she preferred talking to my granddad - she ignores my mum to apparently when she visits.
Dp and I are finally getting married in April next year. I'm obviously excited. But im also sad that my cousin won't be there to be my bridesmaid and help me prepare. She had a creative talent and she was going to use the talent to make some amazing items (being deliberately vague) for my wedding.
My aunt has told me she won't be attending the wedding. No reason given. I'm a little hurt that she won't come. I'm her only niece/nephew as I'm an only child and my mum is her only sibling, so this is the only chance shell get to see a wedding in the family as her son is unlikely to ever meet anyone - although he's invited he's also unlikely to attend due to his autism (he could be left with his dad as his parents are split if my aunt wanted to attend). I'm upset. My aunts never met my daughter and was hoping she'd be able to meet her at the wedding.
I know I'm being UR though as seeing me get married will likely remind her of the children she's lost and the opportunities they never had .
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Hurt that my aunt won't come to my wedding - i'm probably UR
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IMBWater · 07/12/2015 22:18
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