so ..... i have recently stopped contact with the children's father only letting him come to there birthday party's and going once to see my son while he was at his nans
The reason for NC is because he has been aggressive and unreasonable constantly swearing at me words like "you nasty cunt " "you make me sick you piece of shit" " your the worst mother" etc IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN. and completely unprovoked i am not particularly nice to him but im also not horrible or angry just sterile really i never swear at him or shout .
a few incidents include him taking my keys from the car and not letting me leave and swearing at me while holding our 5 year old. and when dropping them off decided to change the time from 6 to 4 i explained i wouldn't be home in time so he said he was going to leave them with a neighbour.
storming off leaving my son screaming on the drive for daddy to come back and me having to call in sick at work
causing a massive scene in the middlle of pizza hut when we bumped into him there with his new girlfriend and her children , i tried to calmly explain that it wasn't fair for him to sit on another table with two other children and there's no reason we cant all be civil and sit together , he replied" i'm not sitting with you , you nasty bitch you make me sick then began shouting and calling me a cunt at which point the waiter came over to ask if i was ok .
i then sent the children to sit with him and left pizza hut and collected them and hour later .
he also called me and said " you are going to have to stop all this friday shit coz i cant get back on time to have the kids " ( by this he meant my job ) and i had to leave as a result . and hasn't provided any child maintenance for 2 months
I have arranged mediation appointments to try and sort the situation out and lay some ground rules but during the 1st session he lied through the whole thing so we got nowhere ( I also believe he has a serious compulsive lying disorder as he's been lying about the most random things and caught out every time even by the mediator at the session)
in the 2nd session i lay down my ground rules which were pretty harsh but i feel extremely necessary things like he needs to seek help for anger management and compulsive lying , no alcohol anywhere near the time of having the kids and i will be breathing ( as he will just lie)
meeting with his GF as he lives with her. and a few other general consistency rules . to this he stormed out with the usual verbal abuse .
now i don't know what to do as i don't know if i'm doing the right thing by stopping contact and where i go from here
and weather to try another mediation session if hes willing or let him try for court access
What would you do ?
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edgarsuit · 05/11/2015 11:35
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