Family wedding (DH's sister) is next weekend, we will be bringing DD1 2.5, and DD2 who will be 4 weeks and is breastfed.
The wedding is a four hour drive away in a hotel, we are driving there after bedtime the night before the wedding with kids in PJs etc as DH can't finish work any earlier. On the day of the wedding the church is about an hour drive away, following which everyone will return to the hotel for drinks, family photos, followed by dinner etc.
The plan which I had agreed with DH and the bride before DD2 was born was that I wouldn't go to the church, but would obviously be there for the rest of the day / evening. One of the brides best friends will have a slightly older baby and is planning to do the same. We have organised a babysitter from 5pm for DD2 and I can nip out to feed her as needed. DD1 will be (hopefully!) mostly supervised by her cousins but will also need minding throughout the day. DH will obviously want to enjoy himself at his DSis's wedding, which I'm fine with, but managing the kids, putting DD1 to bed etc, will be mostly down to me on the day.
Anyway, the wedding is next week, there is a huge backstory but essentially the pre-wedding emotional shit has hit the fan, and the pressure is on me to attend all parts of the day. I'm really worried that I'll end up with an unfed, overtired, screaming baby at some point, whether it's the church, photos or whatever, and will end up totally stressed by the whole day. The newborn isn't a great sleeper, and I have some milk expressed but not enough for the whole day. None of my family are available to come with us and there aren't enough rooms in the hotel anyway.
I do want to be at the church, and it would be much appreciated by the ILs, but is it totally unrealistic to consider doing the whole day? Will I end up missing most of the day anyway sat in a corner feeding? Or am I overthinking and stressing about something which will actually be fine? I attended weddings with DD1 as a baby but with family backup so the thought of doing this is freaking me out! And that's before I even think about my outfit...
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dependentspouse · 30/05/2015 22:06
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